Megaman XIV
Senior Don Juan
I know not to give my number out first, but what do you guys tell a girl when a woman, mainly online asks for your number, but won't give you hers even when you ask?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When a girl asks for your number?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Harry Wilmington
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Her: Hey, let me get your number?
Me: Sure - send me your number and I'll text it to ya
Her: Oh, um... I don't want to give out my number just yet
Me: Ah, gotcha - well, hit me up when you're ready to do so
Bottom line: if a girl is not trying to give you the number, she's already OUT. And if they ever give me the excuse of "oh, but I don't really know you yet and want to be safe," I give them the same response back so they realize how dumb they sound.
Me: Sure - send me your number and I'll text it to ya
Her: Oh, um... I don't want to give out my number just yet
Me: Ah, gotcha - well, hit me up when you're ready to do so
Bottom line: if a girl is not trying to give you the number, she's already OUT. And if they ever give me the excuse of "oh, but I don't really know you yet and want to be safe," I give them the same response back so they realize how dumb they sound.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
try to get her number but if she won't give it then give her yours and consider it a lost cause
99,999/100,000 you'll never hear from a girl ever again if you give her your number without getting hers.
1/100,000 times you'll hear from her again for any one of a variety of reasons.
99,999/100,000 you'll never hear from a girl ever again if you give her your number without getting hers.
1/100,000 times you'll hear from her again for any one of a variety of reasons.
PeasantPlayer
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Women
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not entirely sure what your question is. Is she asking for your number out of the blue or is she rejecting your asking of her number by offering to take yours?
Doesn't really matter. Either way my response is the same.
Her: Oh, just give me your number and I'll text you.
Me: Nope, for all I know you could be one of those people texting me 5 times / minute. Also calling at 3 AM.
I say it jokingly of-course.
Doesn't really matter. Either way my response is the same.
Her: Oh, just give me your number and I'll text you.
Me: Nope, for all I know you could be one of those people texting me 5 times / minute. Also calling at 3 AM.
I say it jokingly of-course.
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Thorninmyside
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"I don't answer numbers I don't recognise so how will I know it's you?"
MountainSlide
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lol, I just throw women my digits all the time and tell them to "text me". And if they don't I don't give a ****. One day I imagine I am going to have to find an app to block numbers though.
Cerwin Vega
Master Don Juan
Stop thinking logical!
HB8: Can I have your number?
CVF: Sorry, I don't give out my number to strangers *sly smile*
Maybe if I'd get to know you better as in what's your favorite color
HB8: Pink
CVF: That's awesome. (if physical) Give me your mobile *hand out yours*
(if through web) Let's exchange numbers now
HB8: Can I have your number?
CVF: Sorry, I don't give out my number to strangers *sly smile*
Maybe if I'd get to know you better as in what's your favorite color
HB8: Pink
CVF: That's awesome. (if physical) Give me your mobile *hand out yours*
(if through web) Let's exchange numbers now