Pretty straight forward question. Had a girl ask me what I see in her. I assume this is because of her low self esteem, she's the kind of girl that goes after so-called "players" and always gets hurt by them (though she doesn't know I'm seeing 2 other girls). Anyway, it just caught me by surprise, so it got me wondering where she's coming from. Any thoughts?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a girl asked what you see in her; is that just her low self esteem?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
She wants to know you "see her as a real person" not just a warm hole to shove your winkie into.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
WaterTiger said:
Exactly.
In fact, if you got your act together, and are real catch, the more attractive she is, the more she will ask you these questions. A form of validation, that you don't just want her for sex.
The very reason why complimenting her on her looks right off the bat, as most chumps feel compelled to do, doesn't work as good on very attractive women, but complementing them on something they value in themselves will get you pretty much anywhere with her.
Hmm, that makes a lot of sense. It's a good thing I didn't just compliment her looks after that, instead I complimented her personality (she's not super hot but has a good personality, at least when she isn't bitter about the guys who've hurt her).
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
Girl: So what do you see in me?
You: My PP
You: My PP
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Scars
Master Don Juan
It's just her securing herself as a woman, she doesn't want to feel slutty. She knows that as a man you have sexual desires and want sex, but she likes to hear otherwise, whether you're talking out of your ass or not.