Pretty straight forward question. Had a girl ask me what I see in her. I assume this is because of her low self esteem, she's the kind of girl that goes after so-called "players" and always gets hurt by them (though she doesn't know I'm seeing 2 other girls). Anyway, it just caught me by surprise, so it got me wondering where she's coming from. Any thoughts?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
When a girl asked what you see in her; is that just her low self esteem?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
She wants to know you "see her as a real person" not just a warm hole to shove your winkie into.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
WaterTiger said:
Exactly.
In fact, if you got your act together, and are real catch, the more attractive she is, the more she will ask you these questions. A form of validation, that you don't just want her for sex.
The very reason why complimenting her on her looks right off the bat, as most chumps feel compelled to do, doesn't work as good on very attractive women, but complementing them on something they value in themselves will get you pretty much anywhere with her.
Hmm, that makes a lot of sense. It's a good thing I didn't just compliment her looks after that, instead I complimented her personality (she's not super hot but has a good personality, at least when she isn't bitter about the guys who've hurt her).
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
Girl: So what do you see in me?
You: My PP
You: My PP
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Scars
Master Don Juan
It's just her securing herself as a woman, she doesn't want to feel slutty. She knows that as a man you have sexual desires and want sex, but she likes to hear otherwise, whether you're talking out of your ass or not.