When a chick refers to you as buddy?

[mahon83050]

There is some chick I am pursueing at work. When we e-mail each other she occassionally says.....talk to you later buddy or alright man. Is this ******** for LJBF.?

 

[maranathaman]

Yup! But you can always change that by doing KINO and other DJ techniques on her! If that doesn't work, use her as social proof.

 

[Ebach]

That's brutal. Definitely friends. Sounds like she's either too manly or you're too girl. Can't figure out which though. Orrrrr... she is just ghetto but even if that's the case you're friends buddy.

 

[ScrewIt]

if she says that, you should do it too. show her it doesnt bug you.
say "later dude" "later buddy"

 

[Ebach]

And yes, that's one way to go about solving the problem.

 

[Hollowpoint]

LJBB!

 

[Dirtheart]

I would have agreed with everyone here except for the fact that a girl I know called me "mate" and "pal" for ages, but I eventually found out she has had a crush on me ever since we met. Maybe this is an exception, but don't lose all hope. Perhaps try to act less of a "buddy" sort of person with her.

 

[bonjove]

Yeah, I really blew a situation like this once. There was this girl who heard about this girl, and what she did and was trying to get me to ask her out. Well, I asked her why she cared, and she's like "I'm your friend," and then I got all sarcastic and said "Yeah, that's what all the girls say! All the time they just want to be friends with me." The she is like, you are so loud, people in the dorm will hear about this, quiet down. So I say really loud "Hey, everyone in the dorm, it's rumor time, tell your friends." Then she's like "I'm leaving now," and so she left. I talked with her the day after and said I was just being sarcastic, and wasn't serious, and that sometimes I think she treats me like crap, so she goes "If a girl does stuff like that she probably likes you." So, I'm like "Whatever."

Don't ever act like that it's not kosher.

 

[mahon83050]

Thanks for your replies...but I do not kiss this girls ass and I do make fun of her sometimes.

For instance, I asked her out 2x and she cancelled, but after the second cancel she suggested we go out for drinks the next day (which was today). I turned her down (told her I was busy) to be a challenge.

Today she told me I looked nice when I was talking to her near her desk. She also stated how one night she went out to a bar and it was mostly girls. I told her jokingly she could of called me. She responded by saying I would have to beat them off with a stick. So really, I cannot figure it out.

 

[Hollowpoint]

Originally posted by bonjove
Yeah, I really blew a situation like this once. There was this girl who heard about this girl, and what she did and was trying to get me to ask her out. Well, I asked her why she cared, and she's like "I'm your friend," and then I got all sarcastic and said "Yeah, that's what all the girls say! All the time they just want to be friends with me." The she is like, you are so loud, people in the dorm will hear about this, quiet down. So I say really loud "Hey, everyone in the dorm, it's rumor time, tell your friends." Then she's like "I'm leaving now," and so she left. I talked with her the day after and said I was just being sarcastic, and wasn't serious, and that sometimes I think she treats me like crap, so she goes "If a girl does stuff like that she probably likes you." So, I'm like "Whatever."

Don't ever act like that it's not kosher.

Hahahaha rumour time!

 

[ScrewIt]

i'd rather have the girl not treat me as good as other guys.
say in bio class, she talks to 2 other guys more often than me.
back a few weeks, i'd kino, tease her, maker her laugh, the whole package. nowadays, i'd still tease her but not as much. and she's not that friendly towards me as back then, but we have talks once in awhile.

i havent asked her out cause i simmply dont have the time for it with school, work, gym. should i ask her to "hang out sometime" even tho im not sure when, to maintain her interest. or wait until i know i have time and ask...which might be too late?

 

[BrWnSugaMan]

i havent asked her out cause i simmply dont have the time for it with school, work, gym.

-ScrewIt,

You don't see the problem with this statment because you are living in your own shoes. You are afraid to ask this girl out because you fear rejection. This is your way of rationalizing why you don't ask her out.

I don't mean to flame you. I just want to let you know that all of us guys are here to support each other and if you give us the exact reasons and details then we can better help you.


*The best piece of advice I can give you is to ask her out close to the end of the semester. This way, if things get ugly you don't have to deal with the awkwardness. Plus, if you don't ask her out you will be regretting it forever.

 

[ScrewIt]

ic, next week is the last class we have together, ill ask her then. or i'll just call her, i've had her # since the beginning of the term, for other reasons. but back then i had no real interest in her.
now i do, damn when they're distant it gets me hooked.

maybe you're right, but just about everytime during class or at the end, she's walking with her chick classmate(s). and i dont wanna look like a fool if i get rejected in front of them. who knows maybe the last class, she'll be walking with them again.

 

[mahon83050]

Screw it, no offense but why didn't you just start a seperate thread. I came here to discuss the "buddy" problem and you jump in and change the subject.

 

[00Kevin]

You think this is bad. there is a girl at work that calls one of the guys I work with her girl friend. she enters the room and says,"ok where is my girl friend?" then she goes over to him and rubs his back. take a lesson from her.

My advice would be to ignore what this girl says to you. Be a DJ! you must KNOW that all girls want you. make her realize this.

next time she calls you her buddy say,"I like girls that only think of me as their friend. I can give them shoulder massages and not have to worry about them". and then rub her shoulders.

 

[00Kevin]

you just need to put her in the friend category and abuse it with ****y funny. girls go nuts when you just label them as friends and hit on them.
as always, do them before they do you.

 

[ali_g]

Not a big deal. It's only the LJBF line that means you're out of her lover category. If you two are not going out then it may be her way of saying she likes you without 'scaring you off'.

It's all about context.

 

[BrWnSugaMan]

ScrewIt,

Asking her out in front of her friends is not a good idea. Here is one possible option:


On the last class day don't ask her out in class but instead wait until later on that night. Then call her up and say something like, "I really enjoyed having class with you this semester and I would like to see you again sometime. How about we do x on Friday/Saturaday night?"

 

[Hollowpoint]

Originally posted by BrWnSugaMan
On the last class day don't ask her out in class but instead wait until later on that night. Then call her up and say something like, "I really enjoyed having class with you this semester and I would like to see you again sometime. How about we do XXX on Friday/Saturaday night?"

Good suggestion!

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by BrWnSugaMan
ScrewIt,

Asking her out in front of her friends is not a good idea. Here is one possible option:


On the last class day don't ask her out in class but instead wait until later on that night. Then call her up and say something like, "I really enjoyed having class with you this semester and I would like to see you again sometime. How about we do x on Friday/Saturaday night?"

ok thanks for the advice, but arent fridays and weekends reserved for my friends?

mahon -

this friend i'd hang out with a few months ago, i'd kino, tease, crack witiful/c+f jokes at her (i practically treated her like a brat sister) and one time at the pool hall, the cashier guy asked me who this girl was, i just she's my sister.
later down the line her IL was in the 90%'s or she even liked me. i knew because her attitude was different towards me than usual, she was a lot more shy and intimidated by me than usual, she kinoed me on the shoulders a few times, which never happened in the past.

so if a chick calls you buddy or labels you LJBF, do the same back to her, or even say "hey sis", remember, it's all a physchological war game. you tease her back with that she'll like that side of you.

I never did pursue her by asking her out, cause to me she's not attractive and i only considered her a friend.

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