Stephen23
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So what do I guys thinks about giving a woman money sometimes to help her out when she asks
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What's your view on giving a woman money?
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marmel75
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No. Just no. /Thread
Masculinity
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Absolutely not. It conveys that you see yourself as low value and feel that you need to make up for it with money.
Stephen23
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I get what your saying guys but I don't mean just giving a woman money cause u feel like it that absolutely makes no sense what I mean is when she says she is having some issues with some bills and ask for some help do u just flat out say no
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
If I've known her for sometime yes and when she says she'll pay back I'll just smile, respond with "whenever u r ready".
People do get in a jam.
But once you've given some money don't expect it back.
If she pays back that's good and you could do again when she's in a jam - you're created goodwill.
If she doesn't then it makes perfect sense to say NO.
Note: Only borrow money that you could afford to lose - this is important.
The fact that she has the balls to ask you makes me think you made a misstep somewhere else.
Also never had a woman ask me for money.
Never money, offer to take make her dinner or buy her a drink but only if she is sexing you.
taiyuu_otoko
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I usually just leave it on the nightstand.
Although sometimes they ask me to pay up front.
Although sometimes they ask me to pay up front.
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I mack abroad, so this happens with some regularity. I presume that this is after the gal has sexual serviced me; if there hasn't been any such servicing, I just say no & goodbye. I also go pro when the amateur plates are not spinning LOL, so I typically give a little bit (around half the going rate, which is what the gal would get after the Madame takes her cut) and consider the action as being amapro. Of course, at that point, there are no more "dating" in the sense of me paying for dinner, etc., although I will offer her a glass of beer or whatever leftovers are in my fridge.