"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"whats your type"

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theres a girl im kinda seeing now...

last night while we were out she asked me about my dating past and i was tempted to throw out the "whats your type of guy" question..but ive heard its not a good idea to ask that

what are your thoughts
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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SDBmania

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I think it would kind of bad if you asked that and the man she described wasn't you.
 

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well at least i would know and i would be able to move on and not waste any more time on her :)
 

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don't bother to ask because most of the time they don't say what they actually like

plus it looks like you are seeking approval when you ask that question
 

SDBmania

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Yeah, just make yourself believe you are her type.

Being someone's "type" doesn't gaurentee anything. And besides, I've liked girls that werent my type because they were cool.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The most important thing you should remember is that her type of guy currently is you because she's going out with you so as of current you as her type. Her real type might've been someone else, but it changes as she experiences more and more in life.
 

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God, I can't say this enough :

NEVER listen to what a chick says, but to what she does.
 

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its not bad if her type isnt you, actually on the 2nd date with my GF, who is currently crazy about me, she said to me she deosnt like white guys, she really likes dark skinnned latinos, or black guys.


Im not completely white, but i have light skin, so it deosnt matter if ur her type or not as long as she likes u.
 

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Originally posted by Hunterchilla
its not bad if her type isnt you, actually on the 2nd date with my GF, who is currently crazy about me, she said to me she deosnt like white guys, she really likes dark skinnned latinos, or black guys.


Im not completely white, but i have light skin, so it deosnt matter if ur her type or not as long as she likes u.
what race is she?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by vazeh
theres a girl im kinda seeing now...

last night while we were out she asked me about my dating past and i was tempted to throw out the "whats your type of guy" question..but ive heard its not a good idea to ask that

what are your thoughts
Never ask that question. It is never good, whether she describes you or not. As soon as you ask that question, you are put into the ljbf category. Trust me, experience (or lack thereof) is where I learned this reaction.
 

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Originally posted by Centaurion
God, I can't say this enough :

NEVER listen to what a chick says, but to what she does.
Excellent advice Centurion. Girls are ficle, what they say and think changes constantly. By asking this, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. She is going out with you, isn't she?

This is where the movie Hitch is right, at the beginning when Hitch says that it is"Your job not to screw it up." She has for whatever reasons agreed to go into a relationship of a higher relationship with you, so leave it at that. 'nuff said.
 

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Originally posted by Hunterchilla
its not bad if her type isnt you, actually on the 2nd date with my GF, who is currently crazy about me, she said to me she deosnt like white guys, she really likes dark skinnned latinos, or black guys.


Im not completely white, but i have light skin, so it deosnt matter if ur her type or not as long as she likes u.
she's only limiting her options... that's stupid
 
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