"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"whats your type"

vazeh

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theres a girl im kinda seeing now...

last night while we were out she asked me about my dating past and i was tempted to throw out the "whats your type of guy" question..but ive heard its not a good idea to ask that

what are your thoughts
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SDBmania

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I think it would kind of bad if you asked that and the man she described wasn't you.
 

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well at least i would know and i would be able to move on and not waste any more time on her :)
 

Silverback82

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don't bother to ask because most of the time they don't say what they actually like

plus it looks like you are seeking approval when you ask that question
 

SDBmania

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Yeah, just make yourself believe you are her type.

Being someone's "type" doesn't gaurentee anything. And besides, I've liked girls that werent my type because they were cool.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The most important thing you should remember is that her type of guy currently is you because she's going out with you so as of current you as her type. Her real type might've been someone else, but it changes as she experiences more and more in life.
 

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God, I can't say this enough :

NEVER listen to what a chick says, but to what she does.
 

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its not bad if her type isnt you, actually on the 2nd date with my GF, who is currently crazy about me, she said to me she deosnt like white guys, she really likes dark skinnned latinos, or black guys.


Im not completely white, but i have light skin, so it deosnt matter if ur her type or not as long as she likes u.
 

Silverback82

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Originally posted by Hunterchilla
its not bad if her type isnt you, actually on the 2nd date with my GF, who is currently crazy about me, she said to me she deosnt like white guys, she really likes dark skinnned latinos, or black guys.


Im not completely white, but i have light skin, so it deosnt matter if ur her type or not as long as she likes u.
what race is she?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Nice Guy is Gone

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Originally posted by vazeh
theres a girl im kinda seeing now...

last night while we were out she asked me about my dating past and i was tempted to throw out the "whats your type of guy" question..but ive heard its not a good idea to ask that

what are your thoughts
Never ask that question. It is never good, whether she describes you or not. As soon as you ask that question, you are put into the ljbf category. Trust me, experience (or lack thereof) is where I learned this reaction.
 

wavejams007

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Originally posted by Centaurion
God, I can't say this enough :

NEVER listen to what a chick says, but to what she does.
Excellent advice Centurion. Girls are ficle, what they say and think changes constantly. By asking this, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. She is going out with you, isn't she?

This is where the movie Hitch is right, at the beginning when Hitch says that it is"Your job not to screw it up." She has for whatever reasons agreed to go into a relationship of a higher relationship with you, so leave it at that. 'nuff said.
 

DJ_in_making

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Originally posted by Hunterchilla
its not bad if her type isnt you, actually on the 2nd date with my GF, who is currently crazy about me, she said to me she deosnt like white guys, she really likes dark skinnned latinos, or black guys.


Im not completely white, but i have light skin, so it deosnt matter if ur her type or not as long as she likes u.
she's only limiting her options... that's stupid
 
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