"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Piers Nivens

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asking a girl for her number while she is at work?

I've talked to this girl a couple of times we get along pretty nice but the thing is I can only see her at her work place (its like a convenience mart/kinda like 7-eleven but with other things in it).

If i walk in, and she doesnt have many customers (shes at the register) should I ask her for her number? or is asking at work not a smart thing to do? I heard it can put her on the spot but what if you already talked a few times before and arent fresh strangers na mean?

after work she usually goes to a coffee shop with a female co-worker but i dont know her schedules so its hard finding her there.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Piers Nivens

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and yes, she gives a lot of high IOIs. like light kino at the register, we kept tapping each others fingernails once aftr she gave me my stuff etc
 

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Hitting on waitresses, cashiers, etc. is a excelent way to boost self confidence.

And they're a captive audience.
 

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Im not just trying to hit her on tho. We have good familiarity and she added me on fb even about a month ago and I accepted

confused about how to get her number tho. Her workplace, try to catch her outside or just ask on fb. Confused
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Piers Nivens said:
Im not just trying to hit her on tho. We have good familiarity and she added me on fb even about a month ago and I accepted

confused about how to get her number tho. Her workplace, try to catch her outside or just ask on fb. Confused

how you take her number? simple hand over your cellphone to her and ask your number here, or since she is a waitress ask for her number she should write it down and give you, and even so don't expect much.
 

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Alvafe said:
how you take her number? simple hand over your cellphone to her and ask your number here, or since she is a waitress ask for her number she should write it down and give you, and even so don't expect much.
Repped. I either pull out my phone and say what's your number or put your number in.
 

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As soon as you see there are no customers in there, BAM! Pull out the celly. I don't understand why you didn't ask her for her number 2 minutes into adding her on Facebook??? Why all the delay?? All you need to send is "Hey there! I don't use Facebook much, let me have your number" That's all. Once you get the digits, plan a date.
 
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