Cheeky_James
Master Don Juan
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Are you referring to the glued-on ones that last for weeks?If you go down the wig road,just make sure its applied properly,maintained,and not a piece of cheap crap from Ebay. In my previous workplace,I came across many such blokes,and its amazing how they open up to you,Iv seen some wigs that were indectectable,was amazed when told,and some that even Stevie Wonder could spot. You cannot buy a wig for £10,slap it on your head any old how and expect it to look real,and yet,iv seen many blokes do exactly this
I liked Travolta`s rug in Resovoir Dogs was it,the long haired one,but thats just me I reckon!could work @Jor-El for sure
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I think I’m nightgame , where it’s darker, such wigs could be undetectable tbh.
Yeah, well one of my mates had a "hair system" (posh name for wig!) and it did look good to be fair,but he said was very sweaty...which stopped him using it...but I wouldnt criticize any one for going down that roadAre you referring to the glued-on ones that last for weeks?
I dread to think of the state of the scalp afterwards...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
are you an Aussie lolI liked Travolta`s rug in Resovoir Dogs was it,the long haired one,but thats just me I reckon!
Aha! Yes. thats it,im getting my movies mangled! Having rocked the long hair myself before now,I do have a liking for it,and I tell ya,I found the lay-deez do like a man with long hair...its just the maintemance..man,its a faff,new respect for the ladies with long locks after thatare you an Aussie lol
It was Pulp Fiction- Vincent Vega
Some hair systems do look really good. But yeah I imagine it might get uncomfortable to wear.Yeah, well one of my mate had a "hair system" (posh name for wig!) and it did look good to be fair,but he said was very sweaty...which stopped him using it...but I wouldnt criticize any one for going down that road
Fabio agreesAha! Yes. thats it,im getting my movies mangled! Having rocked the long hair myself before now,I do have a liking for it,and I tell ya,I found the lay-deez do like a man with long hair...its just the maintemance..man,its a faff,new respect for the ladies with long locks after that
I remember dating a chick (we were in out late '20s) about the time that Connery had been named "Sexiest Man Alive" at age 62, and she said that indeed, "he is a very sexy man". BRUTAL MOG!Just get a hair piece like Sean Connery
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Antoine LaConte also agreesAha! Yes. thats it,im getting my movies mangled! Having rocked the long hair myself before now,I do have a liking for it,and I tell ya,I found the lay-deez do like a man with long hair...its just the maintemance..man,its a faff,new respect for the ladies with long locks after that

