"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What's Your Number?
- Thread starter Anti-Dump
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Anti-Dump
Master Don Juan
Soon you will realize I think very highly of women.
I think they are SMART and STRONG that's why I am here!
If they were unsmart and weak this Forum would shut down! Who would need it?
AD
I don't think this forum would shut down if all women were considered weak and "unsmart".
After all, women were seen as such back in the day....why else were women not allowed to vote, needed to go from father to husband like a possession not allowed to own land, unless they were widowed (God forbid they actually deal with money) and have no knowledge of anything except what were considered female accomplishments, ie..how to stitch, play piano and generally just look pretty.
Besides, I have known of men, who rather like having a not so smart female who generally is considered weak. But, then I think its just because those men like feeling needed and "manly".
Whatever floats your boat.
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Anti-Dump
Master Don Juan
AD
[This message has been edited by Anti-Dump (edited 06-26-2000).]
Anti-Dump
Master Don Juan
I want to delete the above reply.
I tried to edit it but couldn't.
Please nobody answer it. I was trying to erase it and made a mistake.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
NEANDERTHAL SUPERSOLDIER
Banned
Don the Legend
Master Don Juan
How in the hell could you talk to a girl for 15 minutes when you know nothing about her? My goal would be 2-3 minutes before I asked for the number.Originally posted by Ryan
AD, I sure get where ur coming from, but u just met a chick that u've been talking 2 4 like 15mins.She don't know jacksh!t about u; obviously she'll feel threatened if a complete stranger asks 4 her #??
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
She gives it to him
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.