"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What's Your Number?
- Thread starter Anti-Dump
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Anti-Dump
Master Don Juan
Soon you will realize I think very highly of women.
I think they are SMART and STRONG that's why I am here!
If they were unsmart and weak this Forum would shut down! Who would need it?
AD
I don't think this forum would shut down if all women were considered weak and "unsmart".
After all, women were seen as such back in the day....why else were women not allowed to vote, needed to go from father to husband like a possession not allowed to own land, unless they were widowed (God forbid they actually deal with money) and have no knowledge of anything except what were considered female accomplishments, ie..how to stitch, play piano and generally just look pretty.
Besides, I have known of men, who rather like having a not so smart female who generally is considered weak. But, then I think its just because those men like feeling needed and "manly".
Whatever floats your boat.
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Anti-Dump
Master Don Juan
AD
[This message has been edited by Anti-Dump (edited 06-26-2000).]
Anti-Dump
Master Don Juan
I want to delete the above reply.
I tried to edit it but couldn't.
Please nobody answer it. I was trying to erase it and made a mistake.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Don the Legend
Master Don Juan
How in the hell could you talk to a girl for 15 minutes when you know nothing about her? My goal would be 2-3 minutes before I asked for the number.Originally posted by Ryan
AD, I sure get where ur coming from, but u just met a chick that u've been talking 2 4 like 15mins.She don't know jacksh!t about u; obviously she'll feel threatened if a complete stranger asks 4 her #??
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
She gives it to him
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.