"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What's your Favourite Pickup Environment ?

Peterpack

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What is yours ? clubs ? bars ? Shopping malls ? Colleges ? etc

I actually do alright at clubs but by far my favourite place is supermarkets

why ?

Girls are usually on their own, no boyfriends, mother hens etc

I usually just open asking a girl for an opinion on some food items. From there i'll continue if there is some chemistry, if not, i move on and say 'thanks for the advice'
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CP3WOO

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College is the place for me
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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CP3WOO said:
College is the place for me
Ditto. Easy to find women with similar interests and they're all over the place doing all types of things.
 

foomee

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CP3WOO said:
College is the place for me


college works for me too, but it's the events and actually doing things at college that work for me. club events or even basketball games or something. i find i can't just hit on a girl at the library, i have trouble just starting a conversation out of nothing. so for me its easier when we're already both focused on something like an event, and then we can talk about it and then it'll lead to other discussions
 

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I like the side walk, for some reason a lot hot chicks walk on it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Duffdog

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I can't stand malls, so I guess trying to pickup girls there wouldn't work for me. My absolute favorite is concerts and special events, or large bars that have concerts in them. The Active 2030 parties are crazy, as the point of those parties is to have the largest number of drunk hot girls in their 20's and 30's as possible. I used to go to clubs a lot more, sadly not as much anymore, that venue used to be my favorite.
 

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Sadly, I wasted all of my good years in college being a nervous douchebag around women.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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