"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What's YOUR definition of success when it comes to women?

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Perhaps I should have been more specific. My point simply was that success = whatever route makes you happy. Whether you are happy being a man-whoore or someone in an LTR. It is largely irrelevant, as long as you are truly happy.

As a guy in an LTR the quality and compatibility of the girl is integral to my happiness. I've never had an actual girlfriend other than my fiance. Obviously I've had FBs, etc, but never a monogamous relationship.

In my opinion you shouldn't get into a monogamous relationship with a girl that you don't wanna make babies with/marry... The opportunity cost is simply way too great to sacrifice the fun you can have as a single high quality male.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I just wanted to be able to think to myself "I want to hit on that girl" or "I'm gonna go dance with her" or "I'll get her number now" and then go do it. And now I can go do it, no problem. So I've succeeded. I'm not too interested in banging lots of girls or whatever, but I feel like I have the ability to do so if I wanted to. There's other more important things (art, school, job, side business) I would like to excel in. I just know now that if I'm in a situation where I'm really digging that one girl at the party or whatever, I'm not afraid of going up to her.

So, yeah, it's kinda like what some other posters have said: it isn't a problem area for me anymore, so I'm happy with it. I don't have any desires beyond that.
 
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The ability to bang chicks I'm truly attracted to(the features & proportions that turn me on), the ability to replace them when they're gone & as Iceberg said, to feel great even if they all stopped calling.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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