"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What's YOUR definition of success when it comes to women?

Fuglydude

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Perhaps I should have been more specific. My point simply was that success = whatever route makes you happy. Whether you are happy being a man-whoore or someone in an LTR. It is largely irrelevant, as long as you are truly happy.

As a guy in an LTR the quality and compatibility of the girl is integral to my happiness. I've never had an actual girlfriend other than my fiance. Obviously I've had FBs, etc, but never a monogamous relationship.

In my opinion you shouldn't get into a monogamous relationship with a girl that you don't wanna make babies with/marry... The opportunity cost is simply way too great to sacrifice the fun you can have as a single high quality male.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I just wanted to be able to think to myself "I want to hit on that girl" or "I'm gonna go dance with her" or "I'll get her number now" and then go do it. And now I can go do it, no problem. So I've succeeded. I'm not too interested in banging lots of girls or whatever, but I feel like I have the ability to do so if I wanted to. There's other more important things (art, school, job, side business) I would like to excel in. I just know now that if I'm in a situation where I'm really digging that one girl at the party or whatever, I'm not afraid of going up to her.

So, yeah, it's kinda like what some other posters have said: it isn't a problem area for me anymore, so I'm happy with it. I don't have any desires beyond that.
 

Kirro

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The ability to bang chicks I'm truly attracted to(the features & proportions that turn me on), the ability to replace them when they're gone & as Iceberg said, to feel great even if they all stopped calling.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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