"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What's "too many dates" ?

The_Wolf

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Why not go out with her a few nights a week (4 tops).

Since I read the bible I am under the impression (it was quite a while ago, btw) that when you first meet a woman you should not meet her so much.

But when I have a night off (work), why not chill with her? So what if we saw each other 2 nights ago.


Am I missing something here?


Thank bros :)
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The_Wolf said:
Why not go out with her a few nights a week (4 tops).

Since I read the bible I am under the impression (it was quite a while ago, btw) that when you first meet a woman you should not meet her so much.

But when I have a night off (work), why not chill with her? So what if we saw each other 2 nights ago.


Am I missing something here?


Thank bros :)
Yes you are missing something here. You are missing the point.

rules are'nt rules just to piss you off. They are rules/guidelines for a reason. If you don't understand them (which you ovbiously don't) just follow them until you do.

here is why:

What happens when you buy a new video game and play it everynight for 3 weeks straight?

What happens when you get a new job working at a fast food joint, and eat the food everyday for 2 months straight (besides being fat)?

YOU GET TIRED OF IT


There are bigger, WAY bigger issues at play here, but I won't dive into them as I am afraid I might loose ya. Let's start with the simple notion that you can't miss what's there constantly. The newness wears off quickly. the only thing getting you buy now is the newness of the relationship.

give her something to miss. Give her time to think about the time you had when you did see her. Give her time to think about if you are thinking about her. Give her the time to tell all your friends how cool you are and to gossip. Let yourself get away before you get clamped on to this chick. This is the **** women get off on.

Same goes for the phone as well
 

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If you are spending 4 evenings a week with your girl, how are you ever going to get ahead with your life? I think 3 MAX is a great balance...and even then, keep it short. I've seen too many worthless lives spawned from over-familiarity in relationships!
 

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slow, slow.. don't loose him. I didn't even want to go there. I doubt he's ready to hear that yet. One thing at a time. rome wasn't built in a day.

BTW... 1 time for me is lucky
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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