What's the longest a women made you wait?

[manhattanguy35]

I dated a woman for several months, like an AFC, waiting until she got more comfortable or something like that. It never happened, we argued, and stopped seeing each other. That's what led me to forums like this one.

 

[jophil28]

I dated a woman for several months, like an AFC, waiting until she got more comfortable or something like that. It never happened, we argued, and stopped seeing each other. That's what led me to forums like this one.

One of my brothers sells real estate.
He says that the most common mistake that new salesmen make is being afraid to ask a prospective buyer two questions -

a) Can you afford to finance the purchase of this property ( qualifying them )

b) When do you wish to sign the contact ( he assumes the sale and then justs negotiates the details )

He said that most salemen allow the buyer to lead or be in control and this rarely results in a sale. Most people WANT to be lead into a decision..

 

[Hemingway]

Something nobody mentioned is the flip side of the equation: many women are looking to see if you make a pass at them early in the process. If you wait until the third date to proposition her, she's gonna think you are a pantywaist.

 

[samspade]

One woman I dated told me on the second date, "We're both going to go home and masturbate furiously tonight, that's for sure." I could tell she wanted sex from me, but she also wanted to wait at least one more date. I made one gallant, token attempt to get her in bed, but seeing and appreciating her state of mind, I let my patient side win out. She even teased me with "[Our sex together] is going to be amazing, when it happens."

We had a third date, and sure enough, screwed like animals at her place that night.

The point is, I knew she wanted it. In fact, In knew she wanted on the first date - and in fact I knew she wanted it within five minutes of meeting her for the first time. I'm sure you've all been there, where it's written all over her face, and you know it's your poon to lose. Those are the best "waiting periods," because you have to play a card here, and a card there, but you know you hold all of the aces and she just wants to see them one at a time.

Any situation in which you aren't at least half certain of her sexual designs on you after Date One will probably turn into a waste of your time and money.

Remember, no woman can "make you wait" if you don't want to, but sometimes it pays to be a little patient.

 

[jophil28]

The point is, I knew she wanted it. In fact, In knew she wanted on the first date - and in fact I knew she wanted it within five minutes of meeting her for the first time. I'm sure you've all been there, where it's written all over her face, and you know it's your poon to lose. Those are the best "waiting periods," because you have to play a card here, and a card there, but you know you hold all of the aces and she just wants to see them one at a time.

Any situation in which you aren't at least half certain of her sexual designs on you after Date One will probably turn into a waste of your time and money.

Remember, no woman can "make you wait" if you don't want to, but sometimes it pays to be a little patient.

THis is exactly what has happened to me many times.
First sex is a "dance" and not some chemical explosion .

Building that kind of intense tension is a skill with the sweetest payoff.

 

[NewMan]

I used to care - I used to think in terms of number of dates - and put boundaries on these things - but really, all it did was make me put up some fake goal lines that I may or may not have made.


Now, all I care about is myself - I'm a selfish b@stard - and I don't really care one way or another. I'm not going to spend countless $'s on dates, dinner and all the other Cr@p - My goal is to get what I want - and I have enough experience now to know whether or not I'm going to get it within an hour or so of talking to her (I was going to say 5 minutes).

I no longer waste my time or energy.

I don't put a number of dates on it either - but, if your making all the decisions, phone calls, and paying all the money - you had better bail, cause there's no way your getting any.

The best lay I ever got was a one night stand at a bar. She had divorced her husband, and this was her first night out with the girls since that had transpired - roughly 8 months. She told me she had not got laid in almost a year, and that night had decieded that she wanted to bang - and that I had just been in the right place at the right time. Worked for me..... and couldn't care less whether it was legite or not....

 

[edger]

She told me she had not got laid in almost a year

Sureeee. I had a HOT stripper several months ago tell me she hadn't had sex in 3 yrs. Sorry chickie, but it doesn't work on the guy who has a good knowledge of the game.

 

[NewMan]

Sureeee. I had a HOT stripper several months ago tell me she hadn't had sex in 3 yrs. Sorry chickie, but it doesn't work on the guy who has a good knowledge of the game.

Maybe, maybe not - but I don't really care - got what I wanted out of it...

 

[Fallen]

For those of us that have female friends that we are attracted to, but not effed yet, isn't the answer 'still waiting'?

Lol. That's right. But I guess as long as you're seeing other women, getting your life on, getting your game on and don't go overboard with your female friend, you're doing ok. That's not waiting. Life is what happens while you're making other plans :crazy:

 

[Mr. Me]

I make them wait.

 

[pipeman84]

3 dates (and I mean real dates, none of this coffee / lunch crap) over the course of 3 weeks should be ample time to make the assessment as to whether a woman has interest and attraction enough to become intimate. Anything beyond this is indicative of filibustering on a woman's part and usually points to an only lukewarm IL if at all. In this way a 3 Strike rule benefits both men and women; why would either sex want to engage in a relationship that was lackluster from the start? Why would either want to be involved with a person who was settled on or settled for?

It's urgency and anxiety that makes for genuine, chemical-fueled sexual desire - not comfort, not familiarity. This is precisely why I say Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

Trying to wake up AFCs so that they don't waste time with girls with no/low IL or goldiggers, you're going to the other extreme. Practically you're making sure you're eliminating all quality prospects with this 3 date rule. One can test the woman's interest through her body language, how happy she is being with you and by the slow progression of intimacy (which starts with touching, kissing, making out). One needs time to build emotional connection so that when it comes to sex, it's a special occasion, not just 2 people rubbing genitals.

As to the second paragraph, if one doesn't exercise self constraint then that's a bad omen...any 2 weeks apart and the woman would be justified to give in to the 'chemical-fueled sexual desire' and have an affair, right? If she's already shown she is incapable of restraint with you, it's naive to believe she won't do it again.

Let me propose a different paradigm...I make them wait for sex, because if I just want sex I can call an escort...no need to wait 2-3 weeks and waste so much time with the dating process and arrive at the same place....rubbing genitals with a slvt. But if I want a LTR then I'm scanning for a particular type of person...and if there's even a whiff that she's the sex within 3 dates type of girl, I next her.

 

[MatureDJ]

The length of time that some women wait is not a indication of their interest level in you so much as an indication of the depth of her mother's "teachings".
Like it or deny it, that is probably still the most powerful factor driving a woman's sexual behavior.

I think it's a combination of personal morality/chastity (derived from wherever) and the level of interest. I could definitely see some women thinking that with a Beta, they will make him wait a while, but if during that time there is a chance with an Alpha, the legs will spread wide, and if a kid results, the Beta will be required to start spinning StepFatherGame to stay in orbit.

 

[MatureDJ]

Wow, I've just realized that @pipeman84 just resurrected a thread from 2009.