whats a line i can use or activity i can do to get confidence up with cold approchin?

[metrhoe]

like a default line i can use all situations or activity like asking them a question about something like "can i ask ur opinion on something blah whats blah blah"

 

[metrhoe]

BUMP PLEASE

 

[Reagan]

ahhh Let's see what I got for ya.

"Hi"
"Hello"
"Hey"

I call them the three H's. You can remember it because of Santa Clause.

You know, "Ho Ho Ho".

 

[[]D [] []V[] []D]

Originally posted by Reagan
ahhh Let's see what I got for ya.

"Hi"
"Hello"
"Hey"

I call them the three H's. You can remember it because of Santa Clause.

You know, "Ho Ho Ho".

hahah nice~!

[I bet santa felt that burn up there in the north pole!]

 

[Reagan]

oh another good confidence builder. A lot of girls have friends they have that are ugly or fat to make themselves look better. When you see hot chick with her ugly friend. Approach the fat ugly one and say, "BIG NASTY!!!" and try to keep a straight face, than walk away and have yourself a laugh.

 

[metrhoe]

I NEED SOMETHING MORE THAN JUST HI TO PRACTIVE APPROACHING CAUSE WHAT STOPS ME IS CAUSE I CANT THINK OF STUFF TO SAY IF I SEE THEM OUT OF THE BLUE UNLESS I HAVE TIME TO THINK SO PLEASE HELP ME JUST TO GET STARTED

 

[\O/]

How about "Hi"?


If you want openers, just search the forum and you'll find plenty. Some are good, some are not. Instead of having canned, default lines, try to observe the surroundings and comment on that. If you learn how to do that, you'll never run out of **** to say..Pace reality..

 

[Reagan]

lol. You're over complicating it. The problem isn't that you can't think of anything, it's just you're nervous.

"Hey, what's shakin'?"
"Where's the toilet, I gotta **** bad."


Don't worry about it. Say hi. how it goes from there will be a magical journey into the mind, body and spirit of a young lady.

 

[metrhoe]

Originally posted by \O/
How about "Hi"?


If you want openers, just search the forum and you'll find plenty. Some are good, some are not. Instead of having canned, default lines, try to observe the surroundings and comment on that. If you learn how to do that, you'll never run out of **** to say..Pace reality..

I KNOW THAT BUT JUST FOR MY FIRST FEW TO GET OVER FIRST HIRDLE I WANT A DEFAULT ONE THEN I WILL START BEING NATURAL

NO MORE JUST SAY HI OR TRYING TO GET ME TO DO SOME OTHER WAY JUST POST IF U CAN GIVE ME SOMETHING TO USE

YES I KNOW ITS CUASE I NERVOUS THAT I CANT THINK OF ANYTHING DUHH

 

[Reagan]

Capslock is gay.


"Hi, nice weather?"
"Hey, Can I ask you a question? Do you think George Bush is gay?"
"hello, your hair is gross."
"Hey your expression looks like you have to tinkle."
"Excuse me, but are you constipated?"

 

[metrhoe]

Originally posted by Reagan
Capslock is gay.


"Hi, nice weather?"
"Hey, Can I ask you a question? Do you think George Bush is gay?"
"hello, your hair is gross."
"Hey your expression looks like you have to tinkle."
"Excuse me, but are you constipated?"

THOSE ARE GAY

 

[Reagan]

"Hi there, I haul shopping carts out of pond for a living i've been doing it for 18 years so give me a ****ing check please."

Hi, That's like going to the airport, you know what I’m saying, when there like, are you aware of the contents of this bag; I’m like no. Did you pack this **** yourself; I’m like no. Did you leave this **** unintended; I don't know some mother****er might have left it under a trailer for a couple years."

"Wanna get drunk?"

 

[Q-Pid]

Ugh.

Read the bible. Link is in the top right of your screen.

 

[Maverick001]

Originally posted by metrhoe
like a default line i can use all situations or activity like asking them a question about something like "can i ask ur opinion on something blah whats blah blah"

These are 2 different questions in the title of your post and since some of the other sosuavers have answered the question about opening lines...

The only way to get confidence with cold approaching is to do it. Now, going in with the expectation that you will either:

a) get rejected, or

b) not get rejected

will not help your confidence in making cold approaches because more than likely it`s going to be a) in the beginning.

Having said that, here`s an idea (one that I`ve tested myself and others that I offered up the idea to) - make cold approaches with the explicit purpose of getting a rejection. Go for 10.

In fact, why not do this with your friends, wings, etc. and make a game of it, even at a club or wherever. You`ll be surprised at the results and it will definitely help your confidence because you`re going in for the rejection and so you don`t care.

A simple line for this is, "Hi. What`s your phone no.?" or come up with whatever opener you want.

Try to go for the rejection purposely and see what happens in trying to amass 10 of these.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav

 

[Bonhomme]

Eye contact and a smile

I hardly ever do strictly "cold" approaches. Experience has shown me there's a certain sequence of events that's expected. I "warm the approach up" first with eye contact and a smile. If she gives an indication of interest, then I know any move I make will at least be welcome at first.

I also like to openly flirt when I'm out, and interact with all sorts of gals, whether old or young, stunning or azz-ugly, which ends up encouraging women to hit on me, which happens quite often, even though I'm just a bit above average in looks, and well above average in age where I tend to hang out.

Why go through all the hassle of cold approaching all the time when making yourself approachable is so much easier and more effective?

 

[wheelin&dealin]

metrhoe,

Here's what I use:

"Are you from around here?"

"Where abouts?"

"How old are you?"

 

[superchristx]

I can't believe none of you guys are telling him about the magic spell. God, it's like we finally hear about the trick and suddenly we want to hoard this knowledge all for ourselves. Won't someone tell this poor chump the magic spell so he can become a supafly pimp?

 

[metrhoe]

Originally posted by superchristx
I can't believe none of you guys are telling him about the magic spell. God, it's like we finally hear about the trick and suddenly we want to hoard this knowledge all for ourselves. Won't someone tell this poor chump the magic spell so he can become a supafly pimp?

WHATS THE SECRET TO THIS? TELL ME HOW I CAN B BIG PLAYA

 

[BrotherAP]

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Getting Over Approach Anxiety-Cant Say Hi?