"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
whats a line i can use or activity i can do to get confidence up with cold approchin?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
[]D [] []V[] []D
Senior Don Juan
hahah nice~!
[I bet santa felt that burn up there in the north pole!]
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If you want openers, just search the forum and you'll find plenty. Some are good, some are not. Instead of having canned, default lines, try to observe the surroundings and comment on that. If you learn how to do that, you'll never run out of **** to say..Pace reality..
"Hey, what's shakin'?"
"Where's the toilet, I gotta **** bad."
Don't worry about it. Say hi. how it goes from there will be a magical journey into the mind, body and spirit of a young lady.
I KNOW THAT BUT JUST FOR MY FIRST FEW TO GET OVER FIRST HIRDLE I WANT A DEFAULT ONE THEN I WILL START BEING NATURALOriginally posted by \O/
How about "Hi"?
If you want openers, just search the forum and you'll find plenty. Some are good, some are not. Instead of having canned, default lines, try to observe the surroundings and comment on that. If you learn how to do that, you'll never run out of **** to say..Pace reality..
NO MORE JUST SAY HI OR TRYING TO GET ME TO DO SOME OTHER WAY JUST POST IF U CAN GIVE ME SOMETHING TO USE
YES I KNOW ITS CUASE I NERVOUS THAT I CANT THINK OF ANYTHING DUHH
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hi, That's like going to the airport, you know what I’m saying, when there like, are you aware of the contents of this bag; I’m like no. Did you pack this **** yourself; I’m like no. Did you leave this **** unintended; I don't know some mother****er might have left it under a trailer for a couple years."
"Wanna get drunk?"
Maverick001
Senior Don Juan
These are 2 different questions in the title of your post and since some of the other sosuavers have answered the question about opening lines...
The only way to get confidence with cold approaching is to do it. Now, going in with the expectation that you will either:
a) get rejected, or
b) not get rejected
will not help your confidence in making cold approaches because more than likely it`s going to be a) in the beginning.
Having said that, here`s an idea (one that I`ve tested myself and others that I offered up the idea to) - make cold approaches with the explicit purpose of getting a rejection. Go for 10.
In fact, why not do this with your friends, wings, etc. and make a game of it, even at a club or wherever. You`ll be surprised at the results and it will definitely help your confidence because you`re going in for the rejection and so you don`t care.
A simple line for this is, "Hi. What`s your phone no.?" or come up with whatever opener you want.
Try to go for the rejection purposely and see what happens in trying to amass 10 of these.
Just my 2 cents.
Cheers,
Mav
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
I hardly ever do strictly "cold" approaches. Experience has shown me there's a certain sequence of events that's expected. I "warm the approach up" first with eye contact and a smile. If she gives an indication of interest, then I know any move I make will at least be welcome at first.
I also like to openly flirt when I'm out, and interact with all sorts of gals, whether old or young, stunning or azz-ugly, which ends up encouraging women to hit on me, which happens quite often, even though I'm just a bit above average in looks, and well above average in age where I tend to hang out.
Why go through all the hassle of cold approaching all the time when making yourself approachable is so much easier and more effective?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
Here's what I use:
"Are you from around here?"
"Where abouts?"
"How old are you?"
superchristx
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