"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
whats a line i can use or activity i can do to get confidence up with cold approchin?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Senior Don Juan
hahah nice~!
[I bet santa felt that burn up there in the north pole!]
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If you want openers, just search the forum and you'll find plenty. Some are good, some are not. Instead of having canned, default lines, try to observe the surroundings and comment on that. If you learn how to do that, you'll never run out of **** to say..Pace reality..
"Hey, what's shakin'?"
"Where's the toilet, I gotta **** bad."
Don't worry about it. Say hi. how it goes from there will be a magical journey into the mind, body and spirit of a young lady.
I KNOW THAT BUT JUST FOR MY FIRST FEW TO GET OVER FIRST HIRDLE I WANT A DEFAULT ONE THEN I WILL START BEING NATURALOriginally posted by \O/
How about "Hi"?
If you want openers, just search the forum and you'll find plenty. Some are good, some are not. Instead of having canned, default lines, try to observe the surroundings and comment on that. If you learn how to do that, you'll never run out of **** to say..Pace reality..
NO MORE JUST SAY HI OR TRYING TO GET ME TO DO SOME OTHER WAY JUST POST IF U CAN GIVE ME SOMETHING TO USE
YES I KNOW ITS CUASE I NERVOUS THAT I CANT THINK OF ANYTHING DUHH
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hi, That's like going to the airport, you know what I’m saying, when there like, are you aware of the contents of this bag; I’m like no. Did you pack this **** yourself; I’m like no. Did you leave this **** unintended; I don't know some mother****er might have left it under a trailer for a couple years."
"Wanna get drunk?"
Maverick001
Senior Don Juan
These are 2 different questions in the title of your post and since some of the other sosuavers have answered the question about opening lines...
The only way to get confidence with cold approaching is to do it. Now, going in with the expectation that you will either:
a) get rejected, or
b) not get rejected
will not help your confidence in making cold approaches because more than likely it`s going to be a) in the beginning.
Having said that, here`s an idea (one that I`ve tested myself and others that I offered up the idea to) - make cold approaches with the explicit purpose of getting a rejection. Go for 10.
In fact, why not do this with your friends, wings, etc. and make a game of it, even at a club or wherever. You`ll be surprised at the results and it will definitely help your confidence because you`re going in for the rejection and so you don`t care.
A simple line for this is, "Hi. What`s your phone no.?" or come up with whatever opener you want.
Try to go for the rejection purposely and see what happens in trying to amass 10 of these.
Just my 2 cents.
Cheers,
Mav
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
I hardly ever do strictly "cold" approaches. Experience has shown me there's a certain sequence of events that's expected. I "warm the approach up" first with eye contact and a smile. If she gives an indication of interest, then I know any move I make will at least be welcome at first.
I also like to openly flirt when I'm out, and interact with all sorts of gals, whether old or young, stunning or azz-ugly, which ends up encouraging women to hit on me, which happens quite often, even though I'm just a bit above average in looks, and well above average in age where I tend to hang out.
Why go through all the hassle of cold approaching all the time when making yourself approachable is so much easier and more effective?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
Here's what I use:
"Are you from around here?"
"Where abouts?"
"How old are you?"
superchristx
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