"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What's a good response to this question?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
dutchmaster
Senior Don Juan
"no my boyfriend would kill me"
"sure my sister, is like my best friend"
"right now it's a no, keep up with the dumb questions and it will stay a no"
etc etc. duck the sh1t test
El Payaso
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Good question. I already have an answer I use, I just wanted to see what other people say in such situations.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DiegoSantori
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A response you should definitely avoid is "Define 'seeing'".
If you are not attracted to her and can't improve your life by sleeping with her, then yes you have a girlfriend.
If you are attracted to her and can improve your life by sleeping with her, then no you don't.
Even if you have a girlfriend, what does have to do with sleeping with her? Although it's is frowned upon in NA culture, lots of men in the East are married and have good looking mistresses.
I don't use canned responses with women. So whatever the situation is.. that is what I tell them.
Bible_Belt
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El Payaso
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And what are some examples you've used and what was the situation?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
El Payaso
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I like this.
Tictac
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Belching brim fire and farting noxious gases. Maybe some chest thumping.
Women ask me this question all the time. If the woman asking is someone I want to f*ck I usually say no or that I'm "talking to someone". If the woman asking is someone I don't want to f*ck then I say I'm dating someone. All three are true.
wifehunter
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MrWood
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Atom Smasher
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Leaves her thinking you're obtainable yet are desired by other women. Social proof, the keys to the kingdom...
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"Yup, dozens, and I have one booked in at 11."
"Girlfriends no, sex slaves, yes."
"Do ****buddies count?"
"Yes"
"Ask me in the morning"
"Yup, she's hiding under the table right now."
"Why do you care if I do?"
I guess each time is different
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I have a ton of answers for that.
"Well aren't you curious!"
"I have too many to count"
"Wouldn't you like to know"
Sometimes I'll just be 100% honest and tell her I don't or that I don't have time for one, especially if I'm sensing extremely high interest from her.
El Payaso
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I like the last one about not having time for one. Demonstrates high value and triggers competition in her.