"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What's a good response to this question?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dutchmaster
Senior Don Juan
"no my boyfriend would kill me"
"sure my sister, is like my best friend"
"right now it's a no, keep up with the dumb questions and it will stay a no"
etc etc. duck the sh1t test
El Payaso
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Good question. I already have an answer I use, I just wanted to see what other people say in such situations.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DiegoSantori
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A response you should definitely avoid is "Define 'seeing'".
If you are not attracted to her and can't improve your life by sleeping with her, then yes you have a girlfriend.
If you are attracted to her and can improve your life by sleeping with her, then no you don't.
Even if you have a girlfriend, what does have to do with sleeping with her? Although it's is frowned upon in NA culture, lots of men in the East are married and have good looking mistresses.
I don't use canned responses with women. So whatever the situation is.. that is what I tell them.
Bible_Belt
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El Payaso
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And what are some examples you've used and what was the situation?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
El Payaso
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I like this.
Tictac
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Belching brim fire and farting noxious gases. Maybe some chest thumping.
Women ask me this question all the time. If the woman asking is someone I want to f*ck I usually say no or that I'm "talking to someone". If the woman asking is someone I don't want to f*ck then I say I'm dating someone. All three are true.
wifehunter
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MrWood
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Atom Smasher
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Leaves her thinking you're obtainable yet are desired by other women. Social proof, the keys to the kingdom...
daddymonsterpoodle
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"Yup, dozens, and I have one booked in at 11."
"Girlfriends no, sex slaves, yes."
"Do ****buddies count?"
"Yes"
"Ask me in the morning"
"Yup, she's hiding under the table right now."
"Why do you care if I do?"
I guess each time is different
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I have a ton of answers for that.
"Well aren't you curious!"
"I have too many to count"
"Wouldn't you like to know"
Sometimes I'll just be 100% honest and tell her I don't or that I don't have time for one, especially if I'm sensing extremely high interest from her.
El Payaso
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I like the last one about not having time for one. Demonstrates high value and triggers competition in her.