"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Whats a Cool way to ask a girl to homecoming
- Thread starter kal el
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ian Gots Game
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I just got my date today. We aren't bf gf but we like each other. I gave her a hand mirror, with balloons and a note tied to it, saying: "Take a look at the beautiful girl i would like to take to homecoming" -Ian
My best friend made a HUGE sign, 16X30 feet and painted. "THESE WORDS ARE MY OWN... WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME LOVE TREVOR" and put it up on the outside of the school where people walk in.
Another buddy made WANTED signs w/ a pic of her and her name saying something to the effect of "Surrendor yourself to Mr. Brady Jackson, the night of Sept. 17". He made like 75 copies and put them all over school.
Good luck
You wouldnt happen to live in laguna beach would you?
It seems at most "normal" schools (dare i use that
) - Or maybe just at my school - girls would be kinda weirded out / everyone would be weirded out. I would go for the simple "building her a cake" but thats just me.haha. uhhh other that actually asking her your very limited on non-weird things listed above such as the poop writiing, and wanted signs.
Wonderbread166
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Oh, right, I forgot. You don't want to do that.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The Comeback Kid
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That's probably what I'll do when/if I ask a girl to my Homecoming. As for Ian, that sounds almost "movie-like." It seemed to work for you, but like someone else said, at most schools, it would look odd. Even building a cake is a little overboard IMO.
I agree with wonderbread - I think asking her (maybe adding a small twist) is the best way to do it.
GirlInTheHat
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For example, I know I'd be freaked out by a giant poster, or 100 flyers...
Things don't have to be huge to make a big impression.
For example, if she drives then you could leave a card/peice of paper with a message written on it in/on her car, or maybe slip a note into her bag...
Notes are a great method for shy guys too.
Be original too- a $1.95 store bought card doesnt do much for anyone.
The Master Disaster
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Dumb Questions get Dumb Answers
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HER: What is it?
YOU: It's about us...
HER: Us???
YOU: Yah, I just feel... it's kind of hard to say... your a bit too boring for me.
HER: WHAT!! What do you mean by that? How am I boring!?
YOU: Well, you see, in the past I've been with girls who like to party, dance, and have fun. Evertime I'm with you, we just joke and talk. That's happy, sunny and peachy... but you want to have fun too right?
HER: Yes?
YOU: Well, are you the type of girl who can be exciting and not boring? Can you dance, can you have fun?
HER: Yes! I can!
YOU: I don't really believe you... Prove it.
HER: How?
YOU: Well... *pause for a while* Take me to Homecoming and show me if your fun.
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If she likes you... DONE DEAL.
OR
YOU: Hey, want to go to homecoming with me and some other friends on Friday?
Either or is fine...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Anyway why would you want a date to homecoming? At are school almost NO_ONE, ok maybe some people, have dates.
I personally like the wanted poster idea, but just put one on her locker, that would be less weird. But then again i'm a direct person and the very thought of asking someone in a note has been purged from my thoughts.
Docs
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Take staple gun, staple the 20 sheets of paper onto her locker. That way, even if she doesn't want to go..she's got a constant reminder of how much of a handyman you can be.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The Master Disaster
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1. Make a noose with the rope.
2. Take the neelde prick ur finger.
3. Use ur finger that is bleeding and then write:
"Go to homecoming with me or i'll kill myself"
4. Take the rope hold it in your right hand
5. Take it to her and hold the rope.