"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Whats a Cool way to ask a girl to homecoming
- Thread starter kal el
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ian Gots Game
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I just got my date today. We aren't bf gf but we like each other. I gave her a hand mirror, with balloons and a note tied to it, saying: "Take a look at the beautiful girl i would like to take to homecoming" -Ian
My best friend made a HUGE sign, 16X30 feet and painted. "THESE WORDS ARE MY OWN... WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME LOVE TREVOR" and put it up on the outside of the school where people walk in.
Another buddy made WANTED signs w/ a pic of her and her name saying something to the effect of "Surrendor yourself to Mr. Brady Jackson, the night of Sept. 17". He made like 75 copies and put them all over school.
Good luck
You wouldnt happen to live in laguna beach would you?
It seems at most "normal" schools (dare i use that
) - Or maybe just at my school - girls would be kinda weirded out / everyone would be weirded out. I would go for the simple "building her a cake" but thats just me.haha. uhhh other that actually asking her your very limited on non-weird things listed above such as the poop writiing, and wanted signs.
Wonderbread166
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Oh, right, I forgot. You don't want to do that.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Comeback Kid
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That's probably what I'll do when/if I ask a girl to my Homecoming. As for Ian, that sounds almost "movie-like." It seemed to work for you, but like someone else said, at most schools, it would look odd. Even building a cake is a little overboard IMO.
I agree with wonderbread - I think asking her (maybe adding a small twist) is the best way to do it.
GirlInTheHat
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For example, I know I'd be freaked out by a giant poster, or 100 flyers...
Things don't have to be huge to make a big impression.
For example, if she drives then you could leave a card/peice of paper with a message written on it in/on her car, or maybe slip a note into her bag...
Notes are a great method for shy guys too.
Be original too- a $1.95 store bought card doesnt do much for anyone.
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Dumb Questions get Dumb Answers
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HER: What is it?
YOU: It's about us...
HER: Us???
YOU: Yah, I just feel... it's kind of hard to say... your a bit too boring for me.
HER: WHAT!! What do you mean by that? How am I boring!?
YOU: Well, you see, in the past I've been with girls who like to party, dance, and have fun. Evertime I'm with you, we just joke and talk. That's happy, sunny and peachy... but you want to have fun too right?
HER: Yes?
YOU: Well, are you the type of girl who can be exciting and not boring? Can you dance, can you have fun?
HER: Yes! I can!
YOU: I don't really believe you... Prove it.
HER: How?
YOU: Well... *pause for a while* Take me to Homecoming and show me if your fun.
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If she likes you... DONE DEAL.
OR
YOU: Hey, want to go to homecoming with me and some other friends on Friday?
Either or is fine...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Anyway why would you want a date to homecoming? At are school almost NO_ONE, ok maybe some people, have dates.
I personally like the wanted poster idea, but just put one on her locker, that would be less weird. But then again i'm a direct person and the very thought of asking someone in a note has been purged from my thoughts.
Docs
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Take staple gun, staple the 20 sheets of paper onto her locker. That way, even if she doesn't want to go..she's got a constant reminder of how much of a handyman you can be.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Master Disaster
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1. Make a noose with the rope.
2. Take the neelde prick ur finger.
3. Use ur finger that is bleeding and then write:
"Go to homecoming with me or i'll kill myself"
4. Take the rope hold it in your right hand
5. Take it to her and hold the rope.