"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Whatever happened to the free love generation?

Marty

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If you're old enough to remember the 60's and 70's,you're old enough to remember the free love days.It was a time when labels like "slut" and "stud" were supposed to be meaningless.We were fighting the sexual revolution trying to free society of their hangups and labels.What happened to that,guys?I had fun and I miss it.It seems that no matter what,people love their role playing,their labels and their hangups.Nothing changed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Caveman

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Originally posted by Marty
Whatever happened to the free love generation?
They got up and went back to work.

Seriously, I would have enjoyed that time.. Could we start a new 'love generation'? :cool:
 

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They grew up.


Everything that is extreme will be moderated over time. During the 80s extreme capitalism was afoot, but during the 90s "social responsibility" became the war cry.

Similiarly, I tend to think that the 60s/70s "f*ck all you like" days were moderated.

However the chicks looked ugly back then, so I probably wouldn't like them.
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
They grew up.


Everything that is extreme will be moderated over time. During the 80s extreme capitalism was afoot, but during the 90s "social responsibility" became the war cry.

Similiarly, I tend to think that the 60s/70s "f*ck all you like" days were moderated.

However the chicks looked ugly back then, so I probably wouldn't like them.

Add to this the emergence of HIV and the rebirth of Christian Fundamentalism in the 70's and 80's and you have your answer.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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akindofblue

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The sixties were a failure as a decade.

We have the 60s to thank for our current divorce rates and swelling numbers of children born out-of-wedlock.

All the classifications that you mentioned developped for a reason, generally for the overall good of society (even at the cost of inhibiting some actions).

And as others said, people were forced into personal accountability at work. And then AIDS.
 
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