"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What would you pros make of this?

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LOL @ bootlegger

"The student has become the teacher"

Check out that link I left you, that is such a cool post
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I read it.

It's amazing at how accurately it describes all of us AFC. That article is sooo true. And has to be done sooner or later.

This "I'll ask her next week, when the time is right" BS has got to go.




I gotta get something positive out of this. Even if it is just a lesson learned.
 

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I got some practice in today.


I went down to speak with my instructor, and this girl was down there studying.

I took it upon myself to go talk to her. She was studying with a friend, and one thing that she always does, is she starts talking to her friend and gets off track about other things. I used to get up and leave, or pretend I didn't hear them... But today. I interrupted, and continued talking about what I wanted to talk about. "She just laughed, and apologized, and said, yeah I guess we did just kinda change the subject".

I stayed for about 25 minutes, looking over some papers our instructor gave us.

I then gathered my things, and said, "I'll see you guys in the morning". And she turned and looked and said "what, You're leaving?". I said, yeah I have some things to do today. She said "so you're not going to look over your past tests(which was what she was doing)". I said no. I'm just kinda burned out on the whole subject. She said, 'well i'll see you later'. Then I turned and left.

It was great. I left her wanting more. Instead of the other way around.

She was going to be down there for another 2 hours. But if I'm ever going to learn to walk away... This is the girl to do it to. If I can walk away from this girl... I can walk away from ANYONE.
 

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Originally posted by bootlegger
I got some practice in today.


I went down to speak with my instructor, and this girl was down there studying.

I took it upon myself to go talk to her. She was studying with a friend, and one thing that she always does, is she starts talking to her friend and gets off track about other things. I used to get up and leave, or pretend I didn't hear them... But today. I interrupted, and continued talking about what I wanted to talk about. "She just laughed, and apologized, and said, yeah I guess we did just kinda change the subject".

I stayed for about 25 minutes, looking over some papers our instructor gave us.

I then gathered my things, and said, "I'll see you guys in the morning". And she turned and looked and said "what, You're leaving?". I said, yeah I have some things to do today. She said "so you're not going to look over your past tests(which was what she was doing)". I said no. I'm just kinda burned out on the whole subject. She said, 'well i'll see you later'. Then I turned and left.

It was great. I left her wanting more. Instead of the other way around.

She was going to be down there for another 2 hours. But if I'm ever going to learn to walk away... This is the girl to do it to. If I can walk away from this girl... I can walk away from ANYONE.

You still are pursuing her!!! I'm not saying to completely ignore her, but she's just another girl now, throw her back in the sea with the rest of them. End this thread so you stop thinking about her and find new girls!!


PIMP
 

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I have nothing to lose though right?

I would rather be all out rejected, and told NO.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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