What would you guys do?

[Sega Genesis]

I'm guessing all this hot-and-cold/on-off behavior is just part of the game nowadays? I don't remember women being like this when I was younger, but now it happens to me all the time--not just IRL but on apps too.

In fact, my first post on this forum was about a (surfer) girl who would talk-to/flirt-with/hit-on me on an intermittent basis for months. One day acting all into me; the next ignoring me if I tried to talk to her. She'd come back in a couple weeks and do it all again--over and over for months. I can't believe I actually entertained this nonsense for so long.

The weird thing was, even though she'd be rude and ignore me if I talked to her, she'd hover around me and constantly stare. She'd do all the things dating gurus talk about: mirror my behavior; laugh at my (even not funny) antics; hair flipping; talking loudly with her friends...it was all there, but she wouldn't mess with me beyond that.

Eventually I pretty much told her to pound sand and ignored her after that (she continued to stare tho). She chose somebody else (or maybe he was in the picture the whole time?) and moved to a different city, but right before she left she just came up to me one day and talked for like an hour. And she actually looked sad when she left. Go figure.

Maybe it's all the options girls have these days? And they just string along a "bull pen" of dudes that they pick the best out of? Maybe I should just stop interacting with surfer chicks? Who knows? LOL

Did you ever ask her out? A drink?. Ice cream? Something indicating your interest besides just talking?

She may have been waiting for/wanting that. Your behavior may have confused her too.

Sounds like she was into you though always staring and wanting to hover around you, twirling hair. Lots of non-verbal IOIs..

But yeah who knows.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP ignore her. She's a surfer chick who's into guys out of her league, has presumably been burned before by them, is shy up close, exhibits incongruent behavior, and is a psychiatrist (they often choose this profession because they're phucked up themselves, and is likely overly reading into your behavior as well). Next time you talk to her, ask her for some tylenol because she's a headache.

If you do get in a convo with her, make sure to touch her. Knowing what you've said of her though, she likely will only converse with you in depth from across a table with others around. Lol.

 

[Ottocinclus]

Did you ever ask her out? A drink?. Ice cream? Something indicating your interest besides just talking?

She may have been waiting for/wanting that. Your behavior may have confused her too.

Sounds like she was into you though always staring and wanting to hover around you, twirling hair. Lots of non-verbal IOIs..

But yeah who knows.

Asking her out wasn't possible. She would ignore all my attempts to initiate convo. Even a simple wave or "Hi" would be ignored.

Any sporadic communication would be initiated by her and be on her terms, and she would end the interaction before anything could escalate. She even hit on me a couple of times. Gave me the "eyes," and when I went up to her and tried to say something she looked down at the ground as if to say "Go away now." She was clearly doing this on purpose. One of the most bizarre interactions with the opposite sex I've ever had.

I'm guessing the reason she warmed up to me before she left is to leave the door open in case Plan A didn't work out.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Asking her out wasn't possible. She would ignore all my attempts to initiate convo. Even a simple wave or "Hi" would be ignored.

Any sporadic communication would be initiated by her and be on her terms, and she would end the interaction before anything could escalate. She even hit on me a couple of times. Gave me the "eyes," and when I went up to her and tried to say something she looked down at the ground as if to say "Go away now." She was clearly doing this on purpose. One of the most bizarre interactions with the opposite sex I've ever had.

I'm guessing the reason she warmed up to me before she left is to leave the door open in case Plan A didn't work out.

Find out her name and leave a review for her practice detailing this behavior for some good wholesome trolling

 

[Ottocinclus]

Find out her name and leave a review for her practice detailing this behavior LMAO

This is about a different girl. I was writing about a crazy woman who prompted my first post on Sosuave. I'm sure the psychiatrist has some issues, but she doesn't seem as bad as this one.

 

[Ottocinclus]

Asking her out wasn't possible. She would ignore all my attempts to initiate convo. Even a simple wave or "Hi" would be ignored.

Any sporadic communication would be initiated by her and be on her terms, and she would end the interaction before anything could escalate. She even hit on me a couple of times. Gave me the "eyes," and when I went up to her and tried to say something she looked down at the ground as if to say "Go away now." She was clearly doing this on purpose. One of the most bizarre interactions with the opposite sex I've ever had.

I'm guessing the reason she warmed up to me before she left is to leave the door open in case Plan A didn't work out.

Another interesting thing: a few days after she hit on me, I saw her hanging out with a guy with definite boyfriend energy.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Another interesting thing: a few days after she hit on me, I saw her hanging out with a guy with definite boyfriend energy.

Are you in SoCal OP?

 

[Ottocinclus]

Are you in SoCal OP?

No, SF Bay Area

 

[BillyPilgrim]

No, SF Bay Area

Tough field to play in. Best of luck. Sac town girls may be easier if you don't mind the drive. Farm girls can get easily bored.