"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What would it take you to get married?

ludovic991

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Honestly? For me, it would take a legal structure that treats the assets built during the marriage the same way as prenuptial ones. Meaning, if we both worked and saved, those accounts are legally and explicitly 50/50. But if one person stays home, the "value" of that stay-at-home contribution has to be clearly defined upfront, not just left to a judge's discretion later. I don't see that happening in most current systems. So, practically speaking, nothing would convince me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MatureDJ

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I already have the equivalent of an extraordinarily tight pre-nup, but in any case, I would support the mother of my child just to be a good governess. I just need a fertile-age woman WITHOUT CHILDREN ALREADY that is attractive enough for me to want to hit, and that is otherwise intelligence and not too batty (I have come to the conclusion that all women that would accept me are somewhat batty). I am now pretty much concentrating on women that have hit the big 3-0 (although I'd take them younger :cool:), and it seems that with all the women that claim to want to get out of the rat-race, I should be a hot commodity - but of course, that is not the case. :mad::mad::mad::mad:

I have no problem "renting the cow" instead of "buying the cow", and the only reason I would buy is to have children.
 
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For a minute now now.https://reason.org/commentary/outing-government-from-marriag/ , the idea of getting the government out of marriage altogether has existed. That's not a gendered cause, and one that invites the attention of EVERYONE who desires to strengthen the liberty of all Americans

All that's left is for more of us to pull ourselves out of analysis paralysis, and to start agitating for it politically
The main reason why marriage has any utility - at least in a legal sense - not tied to intercession of assets (ahem) is because the government gives special rights to spouses. Some of these rights can be promulgated by private agreement (e.g., default next-of-kin, inheritance, etc.), but the government gives many tax benefits to married folks (much better tax schedules, IRA inheritance terms, etc.), and of course Social Security survivor's benefits. Libertarians would like to end those special benefits. It is instructive that one of the main proponents of this is Peter Theil, a homosexual, and Elon Musk, who is a polygynist baby-daddy.
 

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I really can't see getting married again unless it is to have kids with someone sufficiently young enough to have a good chance of success with her. A slew of other factors and every situation is unique as well but I see no real upside benefit to marrying a women in her late 30s+ regardless of how much I like her. The way marriage is being framed and thought of by women currently makes it a very risky investment for men.
Really, I can only see 2 reasons to get married - to have a canonical family, and to have a nurse maid at the end of life. It would be great to get both these reasons in the same woman, but alas, this meme is eroding. :(
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MatureDJ

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There are 2 things i want from women: Sex, domestic comfort

Everything else can be covered by ... pets.
Sometimes pets are used for that too. :eek::eek::eek: And no, I am not talking about the kinky p0rno movies where women are abducted and trained as pets. :rolleyes: (If anyone in interested in that, I know where that can be found o_Oo_Oo_O).
 
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