"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What would it take you to get married?

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Honestly? For me, it would take a legal structure that treats the assets built during the marriage the same way as prenuptial ones. Meaning, if we both worked and saved, those accounts are legally and explicitly 50/50. But if one person stays home, the "value" of that stay-at-home contribution has to be clearly defined upfront, not just left to a judge's discretion later. I don't see that happening in most current systems. So, practically speaking, nothing would convince me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I already have the equivalent of an extraordinarily tight pre-nup, but in any case, I would support the mother of my child just to be a good governess. I just need a fertile-age woman WITHOUT CHILDREN ALREADY that is attractive enough for me to want to hit, and that is otherwise intelligence and not too batty (I have come to the conclusion that all women that would accept me are somewhat batty). I am now pretty much concentrating on women that have hit the big 3-0 (although I'd take them younger :cool:), and it seems that with all the women that claim to want to get out of the rat-race, I should be a hot commodity - but of course, that is not the case. :mad::mad::mad::mad:

I have no problem "renting the cow" instead of "buying the cow", and the only reason I would buy is to have children.
 
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For a minute now now.https://reason.org/commentary/outing-government-from-marriag/ , the idea of getting the government out of marriage altogether has existed. That's not a gendered cause, and one that invites the attention of EVERYONE who desires to strengthen the liberty of all Americans

All that's left is for more of us to pull ourselves out of analysis paralysis, and to start agitating for it politically
The main reason why marriage has any utility - at least in a legal sense - not tied to intercession of assets (ahem) is because the government gives special rights to spouses. Some of these rights can be promulgated by private agreement (e.g., default next-of-kin, inheritance, etc.), but the government gives many tax benefits to married folks (much better tax schedules, IRA inheritance terms, etc.), and of course Social Security survivor's benefits. Libertarians would like to end those special benefits. It is instructive that one of the main proponents of this is Peter Theil, a homosexual, and Elon Musk, who is a polygynist baby-daddy.
 

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I really can't see getting married again unless it is to have kids with someone sufficiently young enough to have a good chance of success with her. A slew of other factors and every situation is unique as well but I see no real upside benefit to marrying a women in her late 30s+ regardless of how much I like her. The way marriage is being framed and thought of by women currently makes it a very risky investment for men.
Really, I can only see 2 reasons to get married - to have a canonical family, and to have a nurse maid at the end of life. It would be great to get both these reasons in the same woman, but alas, this meme is eroding. :(
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There are 2 things i want from women: Sex, domestic comfort

Everything else can be covered by ... pets.
Sometimes pets are used for that too. :eek::eek::eek: And no, I am not talking about the kinky p0rno movies where women are abducted and trained as pets. :rolleyes: (If anyone in interested in that, I know where that can be found o_Oo_Oo_O).
 
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