I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
They get comfortable in their self pity and the predictable reality it creates.I would seriously doubt that he's made any real effort.
Very true. I think a lot of guys, on an unconscious level actually choose to continue to fail, they choose that reality. Because as you said, they get comfortable with that failure, and they are frightened of the success. Not the success itself maybe, but they don't know how to deal with that reality of success because they've never had it. Easier to stay on the sidelines in the comfort zone. Get out there involved, and there are all kinds of new pressures to deal with, like satisfying a woman sexually, socializing with her family and friends (if it gets that far), etc.They get comfortable in their self pity and the predictable reality it creates.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
nah not only, his position in group needs to be somewhat above averageI watched a bit of the video, and he reminded me exactly of this one American guy from Florida that came here which one of my friends worked with. We got him having a laugh. It's a socialisation issue primarily
They must think you got some good dee. As long as your mostly honest and not manipulating to get it its all good.Well, he's only got about 10 years to right the ship cause I'm REALLY feeling the age now, just my eyes, Brain, shorter of breath, balance. Fvck man, getting Old SUCKS BALLS. Got flaked on Again tonight (but I Believe this one, she's actually a good woman in my opinion), but I got with her friend(harry lower back but sweet succinct pvssy - EASY to eat, EASY to get her off, with fingers too (and d!ck)..I HATE difficult pvssy). Guys, my issue with the aging is girls develop bonds in sex with you, if you fvck her well, and you are close CLOSE in intimacy, I mean, Heated, and lovey hot, just connected as one, because after a Long while fvcking she And you can't help but to Feel strong emotion for one another. So when she gives All of herself to you and just loses herself to you (because you're so handsome or attractive whatever), you feel kinda guilty when you just want to move on to the next one or say you're going on a vacation (as I am) in a week and won't be able to be with her, so you just drop her after passionately fvcking her, idk you just feel kinda terrible...these FWB relationships, especially when you're getting older like I'm finally feeling my age (early 40s). I'm finally feeling "not worthy" of some women because I know I'm using them and they should be having families with a good man (not me really atm).
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
If your "ugly" you can have a banging body and dress it well.
It's over for him.
Hes messed up in the head. But at least he had a FWB for some time.It's over for him.
Oh my, he makes Ernest Borgnine look like Chad.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.