You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
They get comfortable in their self pity and the predictable reality it creates.I would seriously doubt that he's made any real effort.
Very true. I think a lot of guys, on an unconscious level actually choose to continue to fail, they choose that reality. Because as you said, they get comfortable with that failure, and they are frightened of the success. Not the success itself maybe, but they don't know how to deal with that reality of success because they've never had it. Easier to stay on the sidelines in the comfort zone. Get out there involved, and there are all kinds of new pressures to deal with, like satisfying a woman sexually, socializing with her family and friends (if it gets that far), etc.They get comfortable in their self pity and the predictable reality it creates.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
nah not only, his position in group needs to be somewhat above averageI watched a bit of the video, and he reminded me exactly of this one American guy from Florida that came here which one of my friends worked with. We got him having a laugh. It's a socialisation issue primarily
They must think you got some good dee. As long as your mostly honest and not manipulating to get it its all good.Well, he's only got about 10 years to right the ship cause I'm REALLY feeling the age now, just my eyes, Brain, shorter of breath, balance. Fvck man, getting Old SUCKS BALLS. Got flaked on Again tonight (but I Believe this one, she's actually a good woman in my opinion), but I got with her friend(harry lower back but sweet succinct pvssy - EASY to eat, EASY to get her off, with fingers too (and d!ck)..I HATE difficult pvssy). Guys, my issue with the aging is girls develop bonds in sex with you, if you fvck her well, and you are close CLOSE in intimacy, I mean, Heated, and lovey hot, just connected as one, because after a Long while fvcking she And you can't help but to Feel strong emotion for one another. So when she gives All of herself to you and just loses herself to you (because you're so handsome or attractive whatever), you feel kinda guilty when you just want to move on to the next one or say you're going on a vacation (as I am) in a week and won't be able to be with her, so you just drop her after passionately fvcking her, idk you just feel kinda terrible...these FWB relationships, especially when you're getting older like I'm finally feeling my age (early 40s). I'm finally feeling "not worthy" of some women because I know I'm using them and they should be having families with a good man (not me really atm).
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If your "ugly" you can have a banging body and dress it well.
It's over for him.
Hes messed up in the head. But at least he had a FWB for some time.It's over for him.
Oh my, he makes Ernest Borgnine look like Chad.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.