"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What was your single best improvement point that increased your success with women?

European-DJ

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I’m very curious, if you were to pick your single most important improvement point that made you more successful with women, which one would it be?

Let’s see if we can get an interesting discussion going with some good examples.

Regards,
/European
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Greater social skills and increased knowledge about women has done it for me. All of the other things related to looks(clothes, physique) and money helped but not like improving social skills and knowledge about women. Its probably a 70/30 split.
 

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The main improvement that will get me a lot of girls is being able to spot IOIs mid conversation, usually i don't realize which approaches are going really really well until after the fact when i think back on it. So there's lots of girls i don't bother getting the number for because they seem clearly uninterested...

...until i think about it later and realize something they said is a really strong IOI i didn't notice when i had no time to think
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I did read a lot and realized women are shallow and will always branch swing for someone with bigger LMS, so theres nothing to worry about, as we will be all cheated on in the end. You also can have sex with unattractive women risk free

My abs have abs.
Pic or i call bs lol
 

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I’m very curious, if you were to pick your single most important improvement point that made you more successful with women, which one would it be?

Let’s see if we can get an interesting discussion going with some good examples.

Regards,
/European
Emotional intelligence. Improved every area of my life significantly.

Thanks for making me regret the chocolate ice cream I just ate,

Off to do cardio now to keep up with Guru.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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At 160 lbs soak and wet, good job.

Come back at me at 200+ lbs.
My weight fluctuates quite a bit depending on where I want to be. I haven't been 160 since I was 16 I think though. I'm probably closer to 175. Not huge, but at 6% bf, it still is something to brag about :D :D :D
 

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My weight fluctuates quite a bit depending on where I want to be. I haven't been 160 since I was 16 I think though. I'm probably closer to 175. Not huge, but at 6% bf, it still is something to brag about :D :D :D
6% is quite a claim. Burden of proof falls upon you.
 

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Not giving a **** and always escalate to sex if you can on a first date. You might never see her again.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Choosing women who would be most likely into me.

In my 20’s I approached the wrong kind of women. Every guy has a niche. You have to find that niche
But what if your natural "niche" is limited to fat chicks?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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