pointbreak23
Don Juan
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sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
THis is the sort of mindless drivel that really makes me laugh.pointbreak23 said:sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
Aye. Jophil always wise with the advice. However if you're dating a woman his age, I'd suggest oldies greatest hitsjophil28 said:THis is the sort of mindless drivel that really makes me laugh.
IT comes from a mindset that believes that a guy has to set everything up just right to IMPRESS a woman. Chump thinking at it's worst.
IT is her job to impress you,and if she isn't doing that in an active way then don't bother to call her again..
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I listen to sports talk or conservative talk radio (and ironically - im not a fan of sports; nor do i even care about politics.) I get asked what the hell im listening to all the time... and it allows the women to tease me a bit... call me weird... and an old man... and i come back with my little sly replies (mostly x-rated)...pointbreak23 said:sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Rap is very masculine.San Jose California said:Rap is actually really lousy music.
Rap, like any genre, has some really bad music. If you think I listen to Soulja Boy, forget it. I wouldn't be caught dead listening to that nonsense.San Jose California said:How is following the herd masculine? Nobody starts listening to rap because it's good; they listen to it because their friends do, and that's what's popular, so they think it makes them look cooler. But to me, they just look like people that have absolutely no creativity in music. They don't know what to play, so they go for the default, and think that they stand out and look cool and that the music "fits" them, forgetting the fact that half the country does the same.
It's the biggest genre that people rep no matter how ridiculous it sounds. I see people reppings songs with little kids singing in them (chain hang low) and beats that sound like they were ripped off the little mermaid lmao! You all know what I'm talking about. When you heard the little mermaid and the little kid singing song, you weren't thinking "this song's legit!" you were thinking "what the fvuck this song has an instrument from the little mermaid and that one has little kids in it". Admit it.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.