pointbreak23
Don Juan
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sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
THis is the sort of mindless drivel that really makes me laugh.pointbreak23 said:sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
Aye. Jophil always wise with the advice. However if you're dating a woman his age, I'd suggest oldies greatest hitsjophil28 said:THis is the sort of mindless drivel that really makes me laugh.
IT comes from a mindset that believes that a guy has to set everything up just right to IMPRESS a woman. Chump thinking at it's worst.
IT is her job to impress you,and if she isn't doing that in an active way then don't bother to call her again..
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I listen to sports talk or conservative talk radio (and ironically - im not a fan of sports; nor do i even care about politics.) I get asked what the hell im listening to all the time... and it allows the women to tease me a bit... call me weird... and an old man... and i come back with my little sly replies (mostly x-rated)...pointbreak23 said:sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Rap is very masculine.San Jose California said:Rap is actually really lousy music.
Rap, like any genre, has some really bad music. If you think I listen to Soulja Boy, forget it. I wouldn't be caught dead listening to that nonsense.San Jose California said:How is following the herd masculine? Nobody starts listening to rap because it's good; they listen to it because their friends do, and that's what's popular, so they think it makes them look cooler. But to me, they just look like people that have absolutely no creativity in music. They don't know what to play, so they go for the default, and think that they stand out and look cool and that the music "fits" them, forgetting the fact that half the country does the same.
It's the biggest genre that people rep no matter how ridiculous it sounds. I see people reppings songs with little kids singing in them (chain hang low) and beats that sound like they were ripped off the little mermaid lmao! You all know what I'm talking about. When you heard the little mermaid and the little kid singing song, you weren't thinking "this song's legit!" you were thinking "what the fvuck this song has an instrument from the little mermaid and that one has little kids in it". Admit it.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.