pointbreak23
Don Juan
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sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
THis is the sort of mindless drivel that really makes me laugh.pointbreak23 said:sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
Aye. Jophil always wise with the advice. However if you're dating a woman his age, I'd suggest oldies greatest hitsjophil28 said:THis is the sort of mindless drivel that really makes me laugh.
IT comes from a mindset that believes that a guy has to set everything up just right to IMPRESS a woman. Chump thinking at it's worst.
IT is her job to impress you,and if she isn't doing that in an active way then don't bother to call her again..
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I listen to sports talk or conservative talk radio (and ironically - im not a fan of sports; nor do i even care about politics.) I get asked what the hell im listening to all the time... and it allows the women to tease me a bit... call me weird... and an old man... and i come back with my little sly replies (mostly x-rated)...pointbreak23 said:sometimes i feel like the music i like might create a weird mood in the car, any suggestions?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Rap is very masculine.San Jose California said:Rap is actually really lousy music.
Rap, like any genre, has some really bad music. If you think I listen to Soulja Boy, forget it. I wouldn't be caught dead listening to that nonsense.San Jose California said:How is following the herd masculine? Nobody starts listening to rap because it's good; they listen to it because their friends do, and that's what's popular, so they think it makes them look cooler. But to me, they just look like people that have absolutely no creativity in music. They don't know what to play, so they go for the default, and think that they stand out and look cool and that the music "fits" them, forgetting the fact that half the country does the same.
It's the biggest genre that people rep no matter how ridiculous it sounds. I see people reppings songs with little kids singing in them (chain hang low) and beats that sound like they were ripped off the little mermaid lmao! You all know what I'm talking about. When you heard the little mermaid and the little kid singing song, you weren't thinking "this song's legit!" you were thinking "what the fvuck this song has an instrument from the little mermaid and that one has little kids in it". Admit it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.