"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what to say when she is looking for complments

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I was with a girl today and she mentioned something about being fat, your typical qualify comment. I didnt do the usual AFC 'your not fat!' like I would have, just more went on about what we were talking about and pretended not to hear it. What would be a good way to handle this when she sais she is fat or any other coment when she is fishing for complments? thanks..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If she is beautiful, agree with her on her flaw, and exaggerate it in a playful manner. I have a friend who is a model from Singapore who whines about her weight even though she is perfectly trim. When she does this I call her a giant whale and say I'm surprised she can fit through the doorway. She loves it.

If she is the insecure type, don't say anything, and never rush to her defense.
 

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just say to her well just go to the gym then if you think your fat.
 

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Perfect opportunity for some kino guys . . . . . . .
 

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LOL, this remind me of this episode of Dr Phil (yes, I watch it).

This couple are lying in bed together, gazing into each others eyes. The wife is expecting him to come out & say something spectacular...

" God you're ugly "

:crackup:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Shocker said:
I was with a girl today and she mentioned something about being fat, your typical qualify comment. I didnt do the usual AFC 'your not fat!' like I would have, just more went on about what we were talking about and pretended not to hear it. What would be a good way to handle this when she sais she is fat or any other coment when she is fishing for complments? thanks..
Actually I think the way you handled it was the best way. I hate when girls say this sh*t & I ignore it. I fidn that if you try to find answer to it you find yourself stumped as to what to say.
 

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i remember going to the beach with a few girls and there was this one girl in a bikini and she looked amazing. whats the first thing she said? do i look fat in this.
i told her yes, now go swim with the rest of the whales. she just called me a prick. i told her to not be so stupid, i said it looks like a new suit, you were just fishing for comments. like what else did she want me to do, get on my knees and drool.
 

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Just smile and say "No, don't worry!"

But if a girl really is fat, and would know if you were lying about it, you use a sober tone and say "It's not everything, and seriously, you don't have anything to worry about when it comes to charisma."

The word charisma is an excellent compliment to use when a girl doesn't look good, but is still nice and intelligent.
 
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