"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What to say when a chic asks for a cigarette?

timmylivingalie

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Last nite a chic came up to my friend and asks for a cigarette. He handed her one and of course she left. Should he have handled it like a girl asking to buy her a drink?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Very interesting question.

I usually just say no. But if she's hot, it's the perfect excuse to try and engage her.
If I can see a guy near her, I'll say: "Nah, why don't you get one off your boyfriend."
But usually, if she's attractive, it's a great ice breaker.
If she bails straight away, she's wiped. Cigarettes in Australia are as dear as fvck ($22 for a 30-pack), but if it only costs me one cigarette to weed out another ho, then that's cool. She just gets the cold shoulder if she approaches me again.
I'll also offer her my unsmoked butt or offer her a drag of my already lit cigarette but rarely a whole cigarette.

Still, if you take a girl outside for a smoke, it's a good way to separate her from the herd and work your magic on her.
 

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Lol, how times have changed! Cigarettes used to be so cheap it was nothing to bum one to a stranger. Now it's a major financial life decision to smoke. To the point where giving out a cigarette is compared to buying a girl a drink. What a hoot.

I'm glad I quit smoking before they got so expensive.
 

timmylivingalie

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Greasy Pig said:
Very interesting question.

I usually just say no. But if she's hot, it's the perfect excuse to try and engage her.
If I can see a guy near her, I'll say: "Nah, why don't you get one off your boyfriend."
But usually, if she's attractive, it's a great ice breaker.
If she bails straight away, she's wiped. Cigarettes in Australia are as dear as fvck ($22 for a 30-pack), but if it only costs me one cigarette to weed out another ho, then that's cool. She just gets the cold shoulder if she approaches me again.
I'll also offer her my unsmoked butt or offer her a drag of my already lit cigarette but rarely a whole cigarette.

Still, if you take a girl outside for a smoke, it's a good way to separate her from the herd and work your magic on her.
Thats a good idea about getting her outside instead of giving to her right then you could get her to follow you out before you gave her a cigarette.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Personally I wouldn't think much of it. If she wanted one and I had one spare then I'd just give it to her.

If the girl's interested in talking then she'll usually hang around and make it obvious.
 

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zekko said:
Lol, how times have changed! Cigarettes used to be so cheap it was nothing to bum one to a stranger. Now it's a major financial life decision to smoke. To the point where giving out a cigarette is compared to buying a girl a drink. What a hoot.

I'm glad I quit smoking before they got so expensive.

No kidding... One time a dude asked me for a cig.. i joked around and said, "It'll cost ya"

and he proceeded to dig out $0.25 from his pockets.

Had to tell him twice I was just joking.



Also, fvck you if you charge people. I'd rather you say no.
 

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timmylivingalie said:
Last nite a chic came up to my friend and asks for a cigarette. He handed her one and of course she left. Should he have handled it like a girl asking to buy her a drink?
Babe with an oral fixation .... here you go hon!
Worth it just to see the look.

3 bucks per pack in Canada (if you buy it off one of the Indian reservations scattered around).

SH
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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