Pimpology101
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I have been dating this girl for awhile and things have kind of bogged down neither of us can think of anything really fun to go do. Have any ideas for a good time?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What to do....
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PuertoRican_Lover
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You each should find a new mate.
Nightspark
Senior Don Juan
depends how old yous two are...
underage
- bowling, rock-climbing, theme-parks, beach, pools, movies, drive-in movies (even!), underage dances, strolls on the beach, parks, arcades, coffee houses, some place with a pool table... i guess places what you call action dates, places where you can compete against her.. always fun =)
overage
- bars, pubs, clubs (on top of all the others things)
those are just some... there's plenty more... there's always the come over to watch a video or something
underage
- bowling, rock-climbing, theme-parks, beach, pools, movies, drive-in movies (even!), underage dances, strolls on the beach, parks, arcades, coffee houses, some place with a pool table... i guess places what you call action dates, places where you can compete against her.. always fun =)
overage
- bars, pubs, clubs (on top of all the others things)
those are just some... there's plenty more... there's always the come over to watch a video or something
squirrels
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Is it that you can't think of anything fun to do, or that it's just no fun being around HER any more?Originally posted by Pimpology101
I have been dating this girl for awhile and things have kind of bogged down neither of us can think of anything really fun to go do. Have any ideas for a good time?
I totally agree with PuertoRican_Lover.. if you don´t have fun with her, it´s not because of the places you go to with her but it´s because of how you match each other.
Sometimes I have realized that I´ve been dating a girl only because she looks good.. and tried to create an illusion to myself that the girl and I have something else in common aswell. I mean.. I can only be a good company for the girl, if the girl is good company for me. If´s she´s got no sense of humour or is just simply stupid, I really can not have fun with her even if she was a super model or something. You know, the place you go to with her or the things you do with her will not affect the fact how you match each other.
But if you really feel that the two of you are good together, listen to the tips of Nightspark.
-Tango-Kid-
Sometimes I have realized that I´ve been dating a girl only because she looks good.. and tried to create an illusion to myself that the girl and I have something else in common aswell. I mean.. I can only be a good company for the girl, if the girl is good company for me. If´s she´s got no sense of humour or is just simply stupid, I really can not have fun with her even if she was a super model or something. You know, the place you go to with her or the things you do with her will not affect the fact how you match each other.
But if you really feel that the two of you are good together, listen to the tips of Nightspark.
-Tango-Kid-
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
jbbrain
Master Don Juan
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jbbrain
Master Don Juan
i actually agree with puerto rican
youre blind as to the real reason both of you "arent feeling it" anymore.
Anyone can think of many places to go or things to do to have fun. But these things are only helpful if you actually enjoy the persons company in the 1st place..from what it sounds like..
I'd move my ass on and fukk some other girls. Don't worry about it.. Incompatibility is super common..sometimes it just not meant to be, dig?
youre blind as to the real reason both of you "arent feeling it" anymore.
Anyone can think of many places to go or things to do to have fun. But these things are only helpful if you actually enjoy the persons company in the 1st place..from what it sounds like..
I'd move my ass on and fukk some other girls. Don't worry about it.. Incompatibility is super common..sometimes it just not meant to be, dig?