It's a tough situation. I can't leave my social clique because this is a group of people that I've grown close to and I've spent a whole lot of time with. And I can't just ignore the one girl and say hi to everyone else, that'll be way too awkward especially in front of other girls that I want to have a potential chance with. So any advice?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What to do when your one-itis that you nexted is in your social clique?
- Thread starter Demystify
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Easy. Get with a new girl, or two, and bring them out with the social clique.Demystify said:It's a tough situation. I can't leave my social clique because this is a group of people that I've grown close to and I've spent a whole lot of time with. And I can't just ignore the one girl and say hi to everyone else, that'll be way too awkward especially in front of other girls that I want to have a potential chance with. So any advice?
But to what degree do I acknowledge the one-itis?, because I can't completely ignore her while saying hi and talking to everyone elsejdbman11 said:Easy. Get with a new girl, or two, and bring them out with the social clique.
She knows I'd like to hook up with her, as I've tried before but she's pushed me away, and she knows I let her under my skinjdbman11 said:Does one-itis girl know you have feelings?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
romangod said:Why do you have oneitis for a girl you nexted? It doesn't make sense.:crazy:
Cheers!
Well, I nexted her, but because she's in my social clique it's hard to get over her and remove her as my one-itis
jophil28
Master Don Juan
THis situation is just another of life's challenges to face and push through. AT your age you need the practise.Demystify said:Well, I nexted her, but because she's in my social clique it's hard to get over her and remove her as my one-itis
Yes, you still have strong feelings for her, BUT nobody ever died from their feelings.
It could be a lot worse- she could show up with a guy who looks like Bradley Pitt and she smirks at you smugly as she walks by.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.