It's a tough situation. I can't leave my social clique because this is a group of people that I've grown close to and I've spent a whole lot of time with. And I can't just ignore the one girl and say hi to everyone else, that'll be way too awkward especially in front of other girls that I want to have a potential chance with. So any advice?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What to do when your one-itis that you nexted is in your social clique?
- Thread starter Demystify
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Easy. Get with a new girl, or two, and bring them out with the social clique.Demystify said:It's a tough situation. I can't leave my social clique because this is a group of people that I've grown close to and I've spent a whole lot of time with. And I can't just ignore the one girl and say hi to everyone else, that'll be way too awkward especially in front of other girls that I want to have a potential chance with. So any advice?
But to what degree do I acknowledge the one-itis?, because I can't completely ignore her while saying hi and talking to everyone elsejdbman11 said:Easy. Get with a new girl, or two, and bring them out with the social clique.
She knows I'd like to hook up with her, as I've tried before but she's pushed me away, and she knows I let her under my skinjdbman11 said:Does one-itis girl know you have feelings?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
romangod said:Why do you have oneitis for a girl you nexted? It doesn't make sense.:crazy:
Cheers!
Well, I nexted her, but because she's in my social clique it's hard to get over her and remove her as my one-itis
jophil28
Master Don Juan
THis situation is just another of life's challenges to face and push through. AT your age you need the practise.Demystify said:Well, I nexted her, but because she's in my social clique it's hard to get over her and remove her as my one-itis
Yes, you still have strong feelings for her, BUT nobody ever died from their feelings.
It could be a lot worse- she could show up with a guy who looks like Bradley Pitt and she smirks at you smugly as she walks by.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.