This girl from my school is always triing to talk to me and does at the gym. We talk about stupid stuff, but I want to take it farther. I am putting in almost no effrot (to attracting her) she is on to me. What steps should I take next?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What to do when a girl is attracted for you?
- Thread starter oteao99
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Kev07
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get her number set a date, kino a lot, dont get pushed around by her
SenorSuave
Don Juan
Not necessarily alot of kino, just be smooth with it. Maintain an alpha male state of mind (check out other women during the date, disagree with her at times, etc).
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
TELL her you two should hang out and catch a movie sometime. Then offer a date and time.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
shydude
Master Don Juan
READ the Dj bible. And think bro.. NO matter how AFC you are, a 5 year older would know what to do next. But yea, read the Dj bible, you will find MIND BLOWING SH1T in there. As i can see your a total AFC, after reading tht bible im sure your game will improve 90%++++.
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
read the bible, goddamn
Doe Boii
Don Juan
C'mon guys not EVERYBODY has time to waste reading some DJ Bible when they can post a question and get answers from guys who obviously had no freetime and read it. I would say most importantly DON'T STRAY INTO THE FRIEND ZONE. It's easy to happen when a girl likes you and you know it, so go after her sexually but not like thats all your out to get. Females are more attracted to men who are physically attracted to them.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Doe Boii said:
you don't have to read the bible but use some common sense or read some of this site. "obviously had no freetime and read it"..... that statement makes absolutely no sense......but then again neither does this thread:kick:
shydude
Master Don Juan
Wasting time reading Dj bible?? Thats like saying wasting time going to school! Dj bible is there to help you, it shows how to start of. The kid is AFC he doesnt know what to do when the girl likes him, its either he can spend his whole life being AFC or he could start learning something. Its not an easy process! You cant just write him a short reply and expect him to be master DJ. No time to read DJ bible is BULLSH1t! You are a student, there is plenty of freee time to read the Dj bible. So take your time and READ IT! It takes foukin time to learn things, just like it takes time to do everything else. You cant improve your game by reading a short reply. So I will say this again, read the DJ bible and next time dont flame this forum with stuped questions like " what to do when she likes me".
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The Shocker
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Doe Boii said:
You're a fvcking idiot.
Kev07
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oteao99 said:
bottom of the page
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GaryUranga
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Doe Boii
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let's get this straight...are any of you that read the bible REALLY DJ's. How can we be sure that all ya'll are really somewhere REALLY getting girls. How can we know this for sure, you could be lying because YOUR TYPING OVER A COMPUTER. DJ Bible is cool if you wanna read it, but I could be doing more than having my eyes glued to some computer screen, reading a Don Juan Bible to pick up girls.
Again Doe Boii, I don't think ur seeing anything clearly here... DJ's do not become DJ's overnight. guys who read the bible will no miraculasly turn into a DJ. Its a learning curve in life - not just women. A learning curve I have just started. NOONE claimed to be a dj here so I don't know what you're assuming.. I personally don't give a F*** if others are getting girls or NOT... I'm in here to get results, and personally THIS BIBLE HAS GIVEN ME RESULTS... Now if you gave me the option to glue my eyes on some useful information... or to be "doing more"... I know which one I and alot of other people of this forum would pick..
Rock_Solid
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I guess i see where your coming from, but your argument is weak. True, you have absolutely no idea whose a KBJ and who actually knows what their talking about, you have to figure that one out for yourself. But spending five minutes here or there and reading one of the "must read" posts from the DJ Bible can't hurt you, in fact it will help you greatly.Doe Boii said:
In summation, instead of wanking it you could be improving yourself.
I'm 13 and I'M studying the DJ Bible, between soccer, training, working-out, school, chores and more, so don't be a bum and read a little of it everyday. It was made by experts who went through a lot to get the material to write it.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.