This girl from my school is always triing to talk to me and does at the gym. We talk about stupid stuff, but I want to take it farther. I am putting in almost no effrot (to attracting her) she is on to me. What steps should I take next?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Doe Boii said:C'mon guys not EVERYBODY has time to waste reading some DJ Bible when they can post a question and get answers from guys who obviously had no freetime and read it. I would say most importantly DON'T STRAY INTO THE FRIEND ZONE. It's easy to happen when a girl likes you and you know it, so go after her sexually but not like thats all your out to get. Females are more attracted to men who are physically attracted to them.
dj bible, what is that? could u give a link?shydude said:Wasting time reading Dj bible?? Thats like saying wasting time going to school! Dj bible is there to help you, it shows how to start of. The kid is AFC he doesnt know what to do when the girl likes him, its either he can spend his whole life being AFC or he could start learning something. Its not an easy process! You cant just write him a short reply and expect him to be master DJ. No time to read DJ bible is BULLSH1t! You are a student, there is plenty of freee time to read the Dj bible. So take your time and READ IT! It takes foukin time to learn things, just like it takes time to do everything else. You cant improve your game by reading a short reply. So I will say this again, read the DJ bible and next time dont flame this forum with stuped questions like " what to do when she likes me".
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Doe Boii said:C'mon guys not EVERYBODY has time to waste reading some DJ Bible when they can post a question and get answers from guys who obviously had no freetime and read it. I would say most importantly DON'T STRAY INTO THE FRIEND ZONE. It's easy to happen when a girl likes you and you know it, so go after her sexually but not like thats all your out to get. Females are more attracted to men who are physically attracted to them.
oteao99 said:dj bible, what is that? could u give a link?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I guess i see where your coming from, but your argument is weak. True, you have absolutely no idea whose a KBJ and who actually knows what their talking about, you have to figure that one out for yourself. But spending five minutes here or there and reading one of the "must read" posts from the DJ Bible can't hurt you, in fact it will help you greatly.Doe Boii said:let's get this straight...are any of you that read the bible REALLY DJ's. How can we be sure that all ya'll are really somewhere REALLY getting girls. How can we know this for sure, you could be lying because YOUR TYPING OVER A COMPUTER. DJ Bible is cool if you wanna read it, but I could be doing more than having my eyes glued to some computer screen, reading a Don Juan Bible to pick up girls.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.