This girl from my school is always triing to talk to me and does at the gym. We talk about stupid stuff, but I want to take it farther. I am putting in almost no effrot (to attracting her) she is on to me. What steps should I take next?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Doe Boii said:C'mon guys not EVERYBODY has time to waste reading some DJ Bible when they can post a question and get answers from guys who obviously had no freetime and read it. I would say most importantly DON'T STRAY INTO THE FRIEND ZONE. It's easy to happen when a girl likes you and you know it, so go after her sexually but not like thats all your out to get. Females are more attracted to men who are physically attracted to them.
dj bible, what is that? could u give a link?shydude said:Wasting time reading Dj bible?? Thats like saying wasting time going to school! Dj bible is there to help you, it shows how to start of. The kid is AFC he doesnt know what to do when the girl likes him, its either he can spend his whole life being AFC or he could start learning something. Its not an easy process! You cant just write him a short reply and expect him to be master DJ. No time to read DJ bible is BULLSH1t! You are a student, there is plenty of freee time to read the Dj bible. So take your time and READ IT! It takes foukin time to learn things, just like it takes time to do everything else. You cant improve your game by reading a short reply. So I will say this again, read the DJ bible and next time dont flame this forum with stuped questions like " what to do when she likes me".
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Doe Boii said:C'mon guys not EVERYBODY has time to waste reading some DJ Bible when they can post a question and get answers from guys who obviously had no freetime and read it. I would say most importantly DON'T STRAY INTO THE FRIEND ZONE. It's easy to happen when a girl likes you and you know it, so go after her sexually but not like thats all your out to get. Females are more attracted to men who are physically attracted to them.
oteao99 said:dj bible, what is that? could u give a link?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I guess i see where your coming from, but your argument is weak. True, you have absolutely no idea whose a KBJ and who actually knows what their talking about, you have to figure that one out for yourself. But spending five minutes here or there and reading one of the "must read" posts from the DJ Bible can't hurt you, in fact it will help you greatly.Doe Boii said:let's get this straight...are any of you that read the bible REALLY DJ's. How can we be sure that all ya'll are really somewhere REALLY getting girls. How can we know this for sure, you could be lying because YOUR TYPING OVER A COMPUTER. DJ Bible is cool if you wanna read it, but I could be doing more than having my eyes glued to some computer screen, reading a Don Juan Bible to pick up girls.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.