This girl from my school is always triing to talk to me and does at the gym. We talk about stupid stuff, but I want to take it farther. I am putting in almost no effrot (to attracting her) she is on to me. What steps should I take next?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Doe Boii said:C'mon guys not EVERYBODY has time to waste reading some DJ Bible when they can post a question and get answers from guys who obviously had no freetime and read it. I would say most importantly DON'T STRAY INTO THE FRIEND ZONE. It's easy to happen when a girl likes you and you know it, so go after her sexually but not like thats all your out to get. Females are more attracted to men who are physically attracted to them.
dj bible, what is that? could u give a link?shydude said:Wasting time reading Dj bible?? Thats like saying wasting time going to school! Dj bible is there to help you, it shows how to start of. The kid is AFC he doesnt know what to do when the girl likes him, its either he can spend his whole life being AFC or he could start learning something. Its not an easy process! You cant just write him a short reply and expect him to be master DJ. No time to read DJ bible is BULLSH1t! You are a student, there is plenty of freee time to read the Dj bible. So take your time and READ IT! It takes foukin time to learn things, just like it takes time to do everything else. You cant improve your game by reading a short reply. So I will say this again, read the DJ bible and next time dont flame this forum with stuped questions like " what to do when she likes me".
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Doe Boii said:C'mon guys not EVERYBODY has time to waste reading some DJ Bible when they can post a question and get answers from guys who obviously had no freetime and read it. I would say most importantly DON'T STRAY INTO THE FRIEND ZONE. It's easy to happen when a girl likes you and you know it, so go after her sexually but not like thats all your out to get. Females are more attracted to men who are physically attracted to them.
oteao99 said:dj bible, what is that? could u give a link?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I guess i see where your coming from, but your argument is weak. True, you have absolutely no idea whose a KBJ and who actually knows what their talking about, you have to figure that one out for yourself. But spending five minutes here or there and reading one of the "must read" posts from the DJ Bible can't hurt you, in fact it will help you greatly.Doe Boii said:let's get this straight...are any of you that read the bible REALLY DJ's. How can we be sure that all ya'll are really somewhere REALLY getting girls. How can we know this for sure, you could be lying because YOUR TYPING OVER A COMPUTER. DJ Bible is cool if you wanna read it, but I could be doing more than having my eyes glued to some computer screen, reading a Don Juan Bible to pick up girls.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.