You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What the hell is wrong with your friend for dating her?Crissco said:
Tried to help this kid, didnt work out. Like I told him he should of ditched her a long time ago. Funny part is, there neighbors.Kailex said:
Yea i know right, im just a bit pissed she would say something like this, but w/e not my problem
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I dated a chick with BPD a while ago so I know what ur saying bro. I really dont know much about her besides her mother died. Apparently she problems with lieing, can lie right to his face. She says shes going to be home at at 11 lets say, but she comes out at 3 in the morning, friend confronts her, she lies to her teeth about where she was.5string said:
She is bpd, 100%. They do this to get attention and love from the ones they are with. Twisted, and it never works, but that is what they think. I once dated a girl who said she was raped in a Wallmart parking lot, took out the garbage and someone attacked her and sliced her head open (she did it herself) said she was robbed, and much much more. All to get sympathy from me.Crissco said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Unknown but you can bet it's self serving.Crissco said:
Absolutely the right choice, especially if cordoncordon is right. Some of the guys on here just "sense" stuff, and cc is one of them. loveshogun as well.Crissco said: