You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What the hell is wrong with your friend for dating her?Crissco said:
Tried to help this kid, didnt work out. Like I told him he should of ditched her a long time ago. Funny part is, there neighbors.Kailex said:
Yea i know right, im just a bit pissed she would say something like this, but w/e not my problem
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I dated a chick with BPD a while ago so I know what ur saying bro. I really dont know much about her besides her mother died. Apparently she problems with lieing, can lie right to his face. She says shes going to be home at at 11 lets say, but she comes out at 3 in the morning, friend confronts her, she lies to her teeth about where she was.5string said:
She is bpd, 100%. They do this to get attention and love from the ones they are with. Twisted, and it never works, but that is what they think. I once dated a girl who said she was raped in a Wallmart parking lot, took out the garbage and someone attacked her and sliced her head open (she did it herself) said she was robbed, and much much more. All to get sympathy from me.Crissco said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Unknown but you can bet it's self serving.Crissco said:
Absolutely the right choice, especially if cordoncordon is right. Some of the guys on here just "sense" stuff, and cc is one of them. loveshogun as well.Crissco said: