That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What the hell is wrong with your friend for dating her?Crissco said:
Tried to help this kid, didnt work out. Like I told him he should of ditched her a long time ago. Funny part is, there neighbors.Kailex said:
Yea i know right, im just a bit pissed she would say something like this, but w/e not my problem
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I dated a chick with BPD a while ago so I know what ur saying bro. I really dont know much about her besides her mother died. Apparently she problems with lieing, can lie right to his face. She says shes going to be home at at 11 lets say, but she comes out at 3 in the morning, friend confronts her, she lies to her teeth about where she was.5string said:
She is bpd, 100%. They do this to get attention and love from the ones they are with. Twisted, and it never works, but that is what they think. I once dated a girl who said she was raped in a Wallmart parking lot, took out the garbage and someone attacked her and sliced her head open (she did it herself) said she was robbed, and much much more. All to get sympathy from me.Crissco said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Unknown but you can bet it's self serving.Crissco said:
Absolutely the right choice, especially if cordoncordon is right. Some of the guys on here just "sense" stuff, and cc is one of them. loveshogun as well.Crissco said: