john_trenor
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Because of both insecurity and lack of attention. They just wont to play, or I have no idea it confuses me to.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Exactly. F>cking, ''So we don't get lost''. Everything is about ''How you/I look'' in the club for girls. Do I look better than the next girl, have I got on enough lipgloss?, is that guy checking me out, why isn't that guy checking me out, I hope my friend doesn't go to the toilet yet, theres a bunch of guys near the door, shes going to the toilet now, how am I going to strut over there, what to do when get out of toilet?, should I pout harder?john_trenor said:Because of both insecurity and lack of attention
The Mad Ghost said:Exactly. F>cking, ''So we don't get lost''. Everything is about ''How you/I look'' in the club for girls. Do I look better than the next girl, have I got on enough lipgloss?, is that guy checking me out, why isn't that guy checking me out, I hope my friend doesn't go to the toilet yet, theres a bunch of guys near the door, shes going to the toilet now, how am I going to strut over there, what to do when get out of toilet?, should I pout harder?
Its not so you don't get lost, its so you don't look vulnerable, or weird. Insecure-moptop-attention wh>res.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
A poster, wanted to know the reasoning behind the insecurities and attention whvring of girls holding hands throughout a club environment. Does he care? I'm not sure, ask him.bigjohnson said:I just don't understand why anyone would care.
Are you old enough to venture to clubs?DJ_Hero said:This thread was making me lose hope in the forum until I seen this post
bigjohnson said:I just don't understand why anyone would care.
You were commenting on something unwarranted which you haven't experienced yet. It matters because what you said/say doesn't.DJ_Hero said:Why would this matter to you?
Exactly, its what a girl would post. Here, we don't listen to ''Girl Advice'' instead we do the opposit, because 9 times out of 10, a girls advice is futile.DJ_Hero said:Haven't experience yet? If you look at my first post in this thread, you'll see I make a similar point to what a girl posted. Don't make assumptions about me based on my age.