"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What the heck are girls doing on this site???

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well, since i have been in here, guys have been pm'ing me to ask for advice. so, we do seem to serve SOME purpose! who can decipher the female mor eso than one of her comrades?

personally, i like coming in here to gain perspective on whats going on on the other side of things. see what you guys write has been enlightening at best and horrifying at worse. its nice to see some guys really care about the chicks they are with and are interested in committing. on the other hand, i see postsdescribing how the guy "banged" a virgin and then posts her photo. yeah, real classy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Hayley79
well, since i have been in here, guys have been pm'ing me to ask for advice. so, we do seem to serve SOME purpose! who can decipher the female mor eso than one of her comrades?
...Still holding my tongue...:p
 

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wow, that's the most replies I got on a topic....interesting. Well, I understand now; the term female don-juan just felt like an oxymoron even though they might exist. girls are here to give non-biased advice. :cheer:
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
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you can always use a dictionary my friend...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Re: Whats the big deal?!?!

Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
try benefit from them/their knowledge.
i dont mind them being here...i really dont care but that statement right there is kinda of a pradox
 

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So the other day I'm going to this place to get me a sandwich. I'm going for the parking space and this girl comes out of nowhere and starts walking like she's the most important thing alive on the planet (even though I could see through her bull****). So I know she's runnin some kinda game... I was running out of patience as usual and was in a serious mood (hungry as a dog).
What would you have done if you were me in that situation? Remember, I was with my car, trying to get in the parking space and the girl is walking slowly in front of me while I'm furiously trying to get to some food.

I'll tell you what I did when I hear your replies.
 

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Originally posted by Ebach
So the other day I'm going to this place to get me a sandwich. I'm going for the parking space and this girl comes out of nowhere and starts walking like she's the most important thing alive on the planet (even though I could see through her bull****). So I know she's runnin some kinda game... I was running out of patience as usual and was in a serious mood (hungry as a dog).
What would you have done if you were me in that situation? Remember, I was with my car, trying to get in the parking space and the girl is walking slowly in front of me while I'm furiously trying to get to some food.

I'll tell you what I did when I hear your replies.
"hey you still have a vagina, if i were you id cut that crap."
 

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Originally posted by undesputable
"hey you still have a vagina, if i were you id cut that crap."
:crackup: I don't know what any of this has to do w/ my topic but its funny as hell.
 

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
:crackup: I don't know what any of this has to do w/ my topic but its funny as hell.
Here's a dictionary for 'ya.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Closed. I think you all know why.

For what it's worth, I happen to know for a fact that penkitten gets PMs non-stop from guys who want advice from her but are too damn chicken-sh*t to admit it on the forum. Sometimes she gets asked for advice from some of the same guys who complain about women being on the site.
 
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