BxPrince24
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damn it i accidentally erased what I wrote... freak...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
what should I do?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BxPrince24
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Damn... this is the 3rd time i'm writting this.
I want to feel more like a man than a teen. Like if I had a car, a goatee, and a job, that would help increase that feeling. I'm 18 and in college. I still feel like I'm a kid who hasn't became an adult yet.
When I'm with a girl, I want her to feel like yea, that her man, he's got things going on. I can't really explain it. I've always envisioned that I'd be doing different things when I became an adult. Is there ever a change? do you get what I'm talking about? Any advice/suggestions?
I want to feel more like a man than a teen. Like if I had a car, a goatee, and a job, that would help increase that feeling. I'm 18 and in college. I still feel like I'm a kid who hasn't became an adult yet.
When I'm with a girl, I want her to feel like yea, that her man, he's got things going on. I can't really explain it. I've always envisioned that I'd be doing different things when I became an adult. Is there ever a change? do you get what I'm talking about? Any advice/suggestions?
Mr. Unique
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BxPrince24
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I'm not having a problem with getting girls right now, i'm not a "nice guy" and I've read that thread b4.
This is more of something with myself not other people, there are things that I think take you from the point of being a teen to an adult. And like I said above, facial hair and other things that I believe can increase that feeling.
I'm still pretty much doing the same stuff that I've been doing, there hasn't really been much change. But I definately think that making me get a car would really give the feeling of actually being an adult.
Maybe what I actually need to feel that way is more responsibilities, i don't know... grrrr...
This is more of something with myself not other people, there are things that I think take you from the point of being a teen to an adult. And like I said above, facial hair and other things that I believe can increase that feeling.
I'm still pretty much doing the same stuff that I've been doing, there hasn't really been much change. But I definately think that making me get a car would really give the feeling of actually being an adult.
Maybe what I actually need to feel that way is more responsibilities, i don't know... grrrr...
ethnomethodologist
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lol "more responsibilities?" like you have none right now. I'm assuming your family is all dead now, and they left no message to the world, I'm assuming you had your **** chopped off, and your balls are shriveled, I'm assuming everybody in your life is perfect, lots of assumptions saying you need more responsibility punk.
You sound ungrateful to the people that love you. Nobody's ever told you you were wrong, nobody's ever told you that you need to work on your life? Those ARE your responsibilities.
You sound ungrateful to the people that love you. Nobody's ever told you you were wrong, nobody's ever told you that you need to work on your life? Those ARE your responsibilities.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
BxPrince24
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What are you talking about? How did family even come into this? When I say more responsiblities I'm talking about working, have things that I have to take care of, places that I have to go, etc...Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
lol "more responsibilities?" like you have none right now. I'm assuming your family is all dead now, and they left no message to the world, I'm assuming you had your **** chopped off, and your balls are shriveled, I'm assuming everybody in your life is perfect, lots of assumptions saying you need more responsibility punk.
You sound ungrateful to the people that love you. Nobody's ever told you you were wrong, nobody's ever told you that you need to work on your life? Those ARE your responsibilities.
Mr. Unique
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If you want a job, get a job. If you want a car but dont have the money, get the job and save your money, get you're butt off the chair, turn the computer off and look for a job. you want to be a man, hit the gym and work out, its not that hard, man sorry if this isnt the answer you were looking for but its the only way.
BxPrince24
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I'm in college, therefore I'm broke. If I do get a car, my father will pay for the insurance/other expenses. I've tried looking for a job and I'm still trying to get a job. Can't afford to work out in a gym so I work out in my room and jog around the block every other day.Originally posted by Mr. Unique
If you want a job, get a job. If you want a car but dont have the money, get the job and save your money, get you're butt off the chair, turn the computer off and look for a job. you want to be a man, hit the gym and work out, its not that hard, man sorry if this isnt the answer you were looking for but its the only way.
ethnomethodologist
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I'll try to pretend you didn't just say your family is not part of your responsibilities.Originally posted by BxPrince24
What are you talking about? How did family even come into this? When I say more responsiblities I'm talking about working, have things that I have to take care of, places that I have to go, etc...
So what you just want a job? As in employment right? Is that the only thing you want as a responsibility, do you believe you are actually going to do everything you are responsible for, if you can't even admit that you have some OUTSIDE of work?
Spiky
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you need a better outlook. Get a regular job (like at a supermarket), save for a month or two and go on a cheap holiday somewhere... whenever i get depressed or stuck in a rut this always helps me (and im only 17). Go scuba diving, take up boxing, do a PU bootcamp, etc, whatever. If you wanna feel like a man then act like one.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
What does a vacation mean to you Spiky? It's been a long time since I've been on one, I wonder if I could learn from taking one as well.Originally posted by Spiky
you need a better outlook. Get a regular job (like at a supermarket), save for a month or two and go on a cheap holiday somewhere... whenever i get depressed or stuck in a rut this always helps me (and im only 17). Go scuba diving, take up boxing, do a PU bootcamp, etc, whatever. If you wanna feel like a man then act like one.