BxPrince24
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damn it i accidentally erased what I wrote... freak...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What are you talking about? How did family even come into this? When I say more responsiblities I'm talking about working, have things that I have to take care of, places that I have to go, etc...Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
lol "more responsibilities?" like you have none right now. I'm assuming your family is all dead now, and they left no message to the world, I'm assuming you had your **** chopped off, and your balls are shriveled, I'm assuming everybody in your life is perfect, lots of assumptions saying you need more responsibility punk.
You sound ungrateful to the people that love you. Nobody's ever told you you were wrong, nobody's ever told you that you need to work on your life? Those ARE your responsibilities.
I'm in college, therefore I'm broke. If I do get a car, my father will pay for the insurance/other expenses. I've tried looking for a job and I'm still trying to get a job. Can't afford to work out in a gym so I work out in my room and jog around the block every other day.Originally posted by Mr. Unique
If you want a job, get a job. If you want a car but dont have the money, get the job and save your money, get you're butt off the chair, turn the computer off and look for a job. you want to be a man, hit the gym and work out, its not that hard, man sorry if this isnt the answer you were looking for but its the only way.
I'll try to pretend you didn't just say your family is not part of your responsibilities.Originally posted by BxPrince24
What are you talking about? How did family even come into this? When I say more responsiblities I'm talking about working, have things that I have to take care of, places that I have to go, etc...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What does a vacation mean to you Spiky? It's been a long time since I've been on one, I wonder if I could learn from taking one as well.Originally posted by Spiky
you need a better outlook. Get a regular job (like at a supermarket), save for a month or two and go on a cheap holiday somewhere... whenever i get depressed or stuck in a rut this always helps me (and im only 17). Go scuba diving, take up boxing, do a PU bootcamp, etc, whatever. If you wanna feel like a man then act like one.